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Forever ago, we decided on Ruby June and my maiden name as a second middle name (same with my boys). I brought up the discussion with DH the other day to be sure that we are happy with the full name, and DH brought up the point that he would have liked part of her name to have significance. My mother lost her mother who she was best friends with a few years back, after losing 2 sisters and a brother and soon after her father. It has been understandably very hard for her.
Well her mother's name was Joan. Very close to June. I adore June, but think the significance of Joan might be worth the switch. I love my mom to death and would love to honor her mother.
So what do you think of Ruby Joan? Or should we stick with Ruby June?
I do love Ruby June but I have to say that I think the significance of a name would mean more to me. My dad died last year and while we can't use his name as this little one's first name (my sister has a son with the name) we're going to use it as a middle-name even though it doesn't go with our name at all! There are other names I would love to use, but it seems really, really important to do it. Follow your heart, mama.
I do prefer the way June sounds with Ruby but I would go with Joan because of the significance. We always reserve the middle name spot for a name with meaning. I don't even like Liam's or Lila's middle names but I agreed to them because of who they honor. In the end, that's more important for me.
It's totally up to you and DH to decide. It's nice to honor a family member, and if you feel very strongly about it, I'd do it. It is very similar. I had a situation where DH's sister wanted me to use the name Lee somewhere in the name, in honor of their father...but his father did not even go by Lee, it was in his middle name but not a name that he used or cared for. So we chose not to use it, as it was not significant to us. His first name is my father's name, and DH chose a middle name that he really loves. You can't make everyone happy, so follow your heart :-)
Hmm.. tough call. I love Ruby June because it sounds like an adorable little character! If that makes any sense.
But if it were me, I would probably go with Joan. I had names I preferred over Paul, but my grandpa was so special to me I always knew that just had to be part of his name somewhere. BUT, I also think that you shouldn't feel bad if you don't choose a significant name. Nothing wrong with just choosing a name because you love the way it sounds!!
I would totally switch to Joan. Josiah's middle name is Earl, in honor of my Dad who passed away. Would I have picked Earl if it didn't have family significance? No. But my Dad was an amazing person, and I love being able to tell my son how his name came to be, and why he has the middle name that he does. I'm sure you would feel the same way!
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I agree with everyone else... From the way it sounds I would go with Ruby June; it flows so nicely! But the significance of Joan would warrant a change. It's a tough call! I say go with your heart as well. This is your daughter and she will have this name for the rest of her life. I don't think you should feel bad or guilty for choosing something that you really like; regardless of if it has a special meaning or not...