Log In Sign Up

middle name change?


Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Like Tree3Likes
  • 1 Post By bostoncreampie
  • 1 Post By Pageturner
  • 1 Post By AltMommy

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To 2012 Playroom LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
October 6th, 2012, 05:32 PM
bostoncreampie's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: May 2007
Location: outer space
Posts: 22,681
Send a message via AIM to bostoncreampie
Forever ago, we decided on Ruby June and my maiden name as a second middle name (same with my boys). I brought up the discussion with DH the other day to be sure that we are happy with the full name, and DH brought up the point that he would have liked part of her name to have significance. My mother lost her mother who she was best friends with a few years back, after losing 2 sisters and a brother and soon after her father. It has been understandably very hard for her.

Well her mother's name was Joan. Very close to June. I adore June, but think the significance of Joan might be worth the switch. I love my mom to death and would love to honor her mother.

So what do you think of Ruby Joan? Or should we stick with Ruby June?
JillMama likes this.
__________________
mama to 5 yr old DS1 , 3 year old DS2 , and nursling DD .
Reply With Quote
  #2  
October 6th, 2012, 05:35 PM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: MN
Posts: 4,995
I have to say I like the sound of Ruby June a bit more, but I also like names that have special meaning...changing to Ruby Joan might be the way to go!
Reply With Quote
  #3  
October 6th, 2012, 05:40 PM
bostoncreampie's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: May 2007
Location: outer space
Posts: 22,681
Send a message via AIM to bostoncreampie
I do too! I think it's the double "u" sound. I just hate to be so shallow with a name. *sigh*
__________________
mama to 5 yr old DS1 , 3 year old DS2 , and nursling DD .
Reply With Quote
  #4  
October 6th, 2012, 05:46 PM
zubeldia's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 1,009
I do love Ruby June but I have to say that I think the significance of a name would mean more to me. My dad died last year and while we can't use his name as this little one's first name (my sister has a son with the name) we're going to use it as a middle-name even though it doesn't go with our name at all! There are other names I would love to use, but it seems really, really important to do it. Follow your heart, mama.
__________________

rafi and charlie by zubeldia36, on Flickr
Reply With Quote
  #5  
October 6th, 2012, 06:32 PM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 1,992
Our first name doesn't have any meaning, but our middle name was my grandfather & uncle that passed away. That being said, I love Ruby June.
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #6  
October 6th, 2012, 06:48 PM
JillMama's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 3,819
I love Joan, much more special.
__________________











Jett 10/11/12 7lb 14.5oz 20.5in long
Reply With Quote
  #7  
October 6th, 2012, 06:53 PM
**Jenn**'s Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: May 2005
Location: NJ
Posts: 11,433
I do prefer the way June sounds with Ruby but I would go with Joan because of the significance. We always reserve the middle name spot for a name with meaning. I don't even like Liam's or Lila's middle names but I agreed to them because of who they honor. In the end, that's more important for me.
__________________
Our angel baby forever missed--1/3/03

Ailish Laura born October 20th, 2012.
8lbs 12oz and 20.75 inches

Reply With Quote
  #8  
October 6th, 2012, 06:55 PM
Pageturner
Guest
Posts: n/a
It's totally up to you and DH to decide. It's nice to honor a family member, and if you feel very strongly about it, I'd do it. It is very similar. I had a situation where DH's sister wanted me to use the name Lee somewhere in the name, in honor of their father...but his father did not even go by Lee, it was in his middle name but not a name that he used or cared for. So we chose not to use it, as it was not significant to us. His first name is my father's name, and DH chose a middle name that he really loves. You can't make everyone happy, so follow your heart :-)
bryan and nina likes this.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
October 6th, 2012, 07:03 PM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 3,577
I think the change may be worth it due to the significance ... Will probably mean more in the end.
__________________
| Jessica | Wisconsin | Happily married since 8/22/08 |



Reply With Quote
  #10  
October 6th, 2012, 07:22 PM
AltMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Bay Area, California
Posts: 2,318
Hmm.. tough call. I love Ruby June because it sounds like an adorable little character! If that makes any sense.

But if it were me, I would probably go with Joan. I had names I preferred over Paul, but my grandpa was so special to me I always knew that just had to be part of his name somewhere. BUT, I also think that you shouldn't feel bad if you don't choose a significant name. Nothing wrong with just choosing a name because you love the way it sounds!!
JillMama likes this.
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #11  
October 6th, 2012, 11:44 PM
doremi's Avatar Team Blue Mama of Two
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: USA
Posts: 17,495
I would totally switch to Joan. Josiah's middle name is Earl, in honor of my Dad who passed away. Would I have picked Earl if it didn't have family significance? No. But my Dad was an amazing person, and I love being able to tell my son how his name came to be, and why he has the middle name that he does. I'm sure you would feel the same way!
__________________
Mommy to two beautiful boys, watched over by two angels in heaven

Reply With Quote
  #12  
October 7th, 2012, 03:03 AM
bryan and nina's Avatar Love being a mommy!
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: NC
Posts: 7,574
I agree with everyone else... From the way it sounds I would go with Ruby June; it flows so nicely! But the significance of Joan would warrant a change. It's a tough call! I say go with your heart as well. This is your daughter and she will have this name for the rest of her life. I don't think you should feel bad or guilty for choosing something that you really like; regardless of if it has a special meaning or not...
__________________





Reply With Quote
Reply

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:30 AM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2016, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0