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So Ethan has recently gotten in a phase where he constantly wants to be held, but only when whoever is holding him is standing up. If someone is not holding him while standing he screams and cries. If you hold him sitting down, same thing. When my husband is around, its pretty easy for him to hold Ethan for long periods of time, but I'm fairly small, and I can't hold him for too long without getting tired / sore. I've tried sitting with him and talking to him, or reading to him (which he used to love), but he doesn't want anythign to do with it. He absolutely hates being in any kind of wrap or sling, so that isn't an option. I am home by myself all day and I don't know what to do. It's really starting to stress me out! Has anyone else had this problem?
jill has been super fussy like this lately. i found that if i take her for a walk in her stroller it helps a ton. then i dont have to hold her constantly. she gets so heavy it hurts my arms. no matter how much she is screaming this always works. i tried a ton of things like bouncing her on my lap, holding her close so shes comforted by me, laying down with her, laying her on her tummy which she usually loves, her swing and prob a ton more but a walk or the car seem to work the best.
I haven't tried the high chair because he still isn't able to balance himself very well yet (probably because he rarely lets me put him down!), and I have tried the stroller idea, but he just wants to be up high I guess. I usually do end up laying with him until he goes to sleep, but it's made it to where he doesn't like to go to sleep at night as easy as he used to.
raini has used her high chair from day one. she hates laying down, loves to sit up. i just used receiving blankets on both sides of her to help balance her. its something that's worth a try!
also my highchair has wheels onit so I just drag her from the dining room to the kitchen if im doing dishes or something. i give her some baby spoons or measuring cups, and i tell her what im doing the whole time, so she's happy if im talking to her.
Addy does this sometimes, she won't be happy unless we are standing up with her. Although I have found that sometimes, she just doesn't want to be held at all, she wants to be laying on her play mat and left to talk to her toys or chew on her hands or whatever on her own. Have you tried that? Other than that, the highchair with some extra support in it sounds like a great idea!
I'll definitely have to look into the high chair idea. I have tried laying him down and giving him different toys to play with but he's not interested. I guess he just likes being up high. Maybe if I get him to sit in the high chair it will encourage him to want to sit up more.
Pax loves his high chair - he eats his fruit/veggies/cereal there and then i put some toys on there so he plays...if he just wants some togetherness and I'm working at the island, he just chills out there and we chat while I work.
High chair trick works on Nicholas too, if only for 5 minutes. He really likes being at the same level as everyone else, right in the middle of everything. He's a fussy guy too, definitely know how you feel!
KyLee, 10/7/05, Nicholas 6/24/12
I had the same issue with Duke. He wanted to be held by someone walking and patting him. I eventually just sat there and let him cry. It took him a few days but he realized that he wasn't getting his way. He still does it a little now and then when hes cranky. But its no where near what it was!
Keep trying the wrap/sling also might be they start liking it again and it really helps. Adler likes being up in the bouncy seat on the counter while I work in the kitchen sometimes too. I can understand your arms getting tired. Adler had a fussy night while we were at my parents and I held him for a couple of hours ( I forgot my carrier doh!) and I was worn out, my arms felt like lead later that night. It will pass though and they wont want to be held anymore.
I tried the high chair with no luck. He had a really fussy weekend where even holding him wouldn't help. I thought it might be teething, so I gave him some teething tablets, but no luck there either. Today we went to the dr and she said it could be silent reflux. Basically its like regular reflux, but instead of spitting up like most babies, he swallows it instead, so it burns both coming up and going down. We got some Zantac for it so hopefully this will take care of it. I hate hearing him cry and not knowing what he wants. It breaks my heart!
Ethan is teething too. I feel your pain. His cries are just so much different when it was teething pain compared to the reflux pain. Plus when he's teething he always wants a pacifier. When its reflux, he wants food. So far the Zantac has been a miracle. He started it last night and had a dose this morning and he has been soo happy. He sat in the bumbo for around 30 minutes, which is impressive for him lol. Then he played for an hour or so before getting fussy. He's napping on my chest right now, but I did read that the medicine could make him tired. Crossing my fingers things keep going well!