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January 7th, 2013, 08:15 AM
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If you'll recall, before having our LO's, one of my biggest concerns was how my DD1 would do - going from an only child to her new status of big sister. Now that it's happened - it's been interesting...and I'm wondering how everyone else is doing on this?

Care to share your stories - funny anecdotes - or helpful hints?
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January 7th, 2013, 10:05 AM
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Sierra has been GREAT! She loves having a baby around. Cade on the other hand is starting to come around. He still won't say her name and refers to her as "baby"
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January 7th, 2013, 10:26 AM
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Hannah has been such a HUGE help!! She is so smitten with Sophia! If I ask for anything from Ryan, Hannah is the first to jump up and get it lol. Hannah is my little momma!!!!
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January 7th, 2013, 10:37 AM
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Well, as you can infer from my initial post, Marlowe has been doing fairly well, but still has her moments. Mostly, it just breaks my heart to watch this adjustment period, because I can visibly SEE when she is upset. It's not even the acting out...(You know what I mean...there's nothing like a tandem newborn and 3 year old screamfest to get the blood pumping. Or the eye twitching.) It's the more subtle moments. Like when she told DH the other day that it makes her "feel bad that mommy doesn't let me sleep with her anymore". (Way to let the 3 y/o throw me under the bus DH.) Every week it's a little better - but seriously, my heart just weeps sometimes. BTDT moms...tell me this gets easier.
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January 7th, 2013, 01:26 PM
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It DOES get easier. When I had my second, my son was 1 1/2 and would sit peacefully by us when I would feed baby or change her and then would just KICK her without any rhyme or reason for it. Now with #3 he is fine. He doesn't really pay much attention to her actually. He may say, "baby's crying" or whatnot, but he doesn't really pay too much attention to her. My daughter though (now 1 1/2) is very aware of her and wants her to obviously be her own doll baby. So we must watch her closely. But I totally hear you on the 3 year old/6 week old tandem scream fests. Mom has even joined in on the tears occasionally!
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January 7th, 2013, 06:19 PM
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We've had a great transition, but I have no clue how or why. My 3 yr old adores her and always says ' look at her, she's so beautiful'. If she cries he'll point it out. But he likes to be right by her, too. If she's having tummy time, it's a struggle to get him off the mat.

As for the 12 month old, he's oblivious unless she starts making noise. Then it's like a toy he won't leave alone. So yeah, they are never left in the same room, within reach...that's fun times right there!
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January 7th, 2013, 10:04 PM
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Both girls have done fantastic. They are both very maternal and LOVE babies, though, so they just see him as an extension of that, I guess? I thought Clara (my 2 yr old) would be jealous and act out, but she has done very well. Normal 2 yr old stuff, but she's never acted out towards him or anything. They actually get kind of annoying sometimes when they want to hold him ALL. THE. TIME, lol. My 4 yr old is constantly begging me to hold the baby or help with something. She's my lil mama.

When I had my second, my first did very well, too. Maybe it was because she was 2 when she came along but now they are BFF and she doesnt remember a time that Clara wasnt here! Really, though, I hate to put it this way, but they really will get over it. It is GOOD for children to have siblings and remember they arent the center of the world. They will be better for it, just keep remembering that.
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January 8th, 2013, 07:15 AM
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Well, as you can infer from my initial post, Marlowe has been doing fairly well, but still has her moments. Mostly, it just breaks my heart to watch this adjustment period, because I can visibly SEE when she is upset. It's not even the acting out...(You know what I mean...there's nothing like a tandem newborn and 3 year old screamfest to get the blood pumping. Or the eye twitching.) It's the more subtle moments. Like when she told DH the other day that it makes her "feel bad that mommy doesn't let me sleep with her anymore". (Way to let the 3 y/o throw me under the bus DH.) Every week it's a little better - but seriously, my heart just weeps sometimes. BTDT moms...tell me this gets easier.
Miles (who is 3) came to bed with us the other night and insisted on sleeping right up next to me...I couldn't move and I had to tend to Sawyer so I packed up all the baby goods and the baby and went out on the couch....the next morning DH informed me that Miles told him after I left "Mommy doesn't like me....". I felt like complete crap after and spent the whole next day sucking up to my 3 year old...
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January 8th, 2013, 08:19 AM
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Savannah is 22 months now. She still has trouble with being careful around them and has kicked them a few times but over all she just wants to help me take care of them. She sometimes gets mad if she wants something and im taking care of them but over all she is great big sister
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January 8th, 2013, 08:49 AM
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Well, as you can infer from my initial post, Marlowe has been doing fairly well, but still has her moments. Mostly, it just breaks my heart to watch this adjustment period, because I can visibly SEE when she is upset. It's not even the acting out...(You know what I mean...there's nothing like a tandem newborn and 3 year old screamfest to get the blood pumping. Or the eye twitching.) It's the more subtle moments. Like when she told DH the other day that it makes her "feel bad that mommy doesn't let me sleep with her anymore". (Way to let the 3 y/o throw me under the bus DH.) Every week it's a little better - but seriously, my heart just weeps sometimes. BTDT moms...tell me this gets easier.
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Miles (who is 3) came to bed with us the other night and insisted on sleeping right up next to me...I couldn't move and I had to tend to Sawyer so I packed up all the baby goods and the baby and went out on the couch....the next morning DH informed me that Miles told him after I left "Mommy doesn't like me....". I felt like complete crap after and spent the whole next day sucking up to my 3 year old...
Aww that would break my heart if Sophia says something like that when we eventually have our next baby! Poor sweeties!
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January 8th, 2013, 09:45 AM
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Really, though, I hate to put it this way, but they really will get over it. It is GOOD for children to have siblings and remember they arent the center of the world. They will be better for it, just keep remembering that.
No, Hilary, this is something that I really do want/need to hear. I know it...subconsciously. But sometimes I just need to hear it from other people; Yes, it does get better.

I feel that, Shannon. I think that as the major caregivers, we take the brunt of our children's sadness at not being an only child anymore. And while we know that they'll get over it and won't know any different at some point - we wouldn't be the best mommies we can be if it didn't hurt us in the meantime. It just sucks to see your child in pain...even the emotional kind.
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January 8th, 2013, 01:45 PM
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Well it is a hard adjustment for everyone! Just give it another month or two and you will be in yalls new routine and everything will be well with the world again, haha. It does get better!
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