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January 11th, 2013, 10:04 AM
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DH is in charge of watching Victoria for an hour or two each night. When she gets hungry, he feeds her a small bottle and brings her to me to feed a little more. I don't think it's too much to ask. He normally stays up till 1am anyway.

Well, last night I went to bed around 10. DH was watching tv. At 5am I woke up and my heart stopped because the baby was not in bed and when I opened the bedroom door I could hear her crying. It still makes me so upset. I ran up the stairs and Victoria was half hanging out of her swing crying. DH was sleeping on the couch, tv off. No breast milk thawed for him to feed her more than once, 2oz.

Lord only knows how long she was crying up there, hungry and upset. It makes me so sad. She relies on me for food, she eats every two hours at night. I rely on DH for help and he makes some very selfish choices.

I failed my little girl last night.
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January 11th, 2013, 10:09 AM
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You didn't fail anyone.
Try not to beat yourself up. Lots of hugs.
Is hubby usually a heavy sleeper?
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January 11th, 2013, 10:13 AM
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Yeah, which is why he brings her downstairs early.
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January 11th, 2013, 10:19 AM
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Yeah, which is why he brings her downstairs early.
He sounds like my hubby.
He slept through Rilynn wailing right beside him in bed last night. She was crying at the top of her lunges almost in his ear and he was out the entire time.
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January 11th, 2013, 12:06 PM
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Omg I would be livid. Absolutely livid. I would feel sick if I woke up to that and my DH would have heard an earful.

Ugh. Im so sorry that happened. If it were me I'd just bring her to bed with me from now now. I dont think I could trust my DH after that, at least not enough to sleep well without her!
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January 11th, 2013, 12:27 PM
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OMG Kelly, I can only imagine how scared you must have been!

Obviously, VR is fine, so there's no permanent damage done here. But still...did you give DH an earful? I imagine he was pretty upset as well?
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January 11th, 2013, 12:59 PM
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He got an earful. He just kept saying, "she's okay." I'm not talking to him right now, I'd say something I'd regret.

She will now be coming to bed with me every night.

This LO is getting extra loving today!
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January 12th, 2013, 06:23 AM
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I kno how you feel. One night a couple of weeks ago, Aubree slept longer than usual and woke up literally screaming to eat. Now, usually in the middle of the night, Mike will get up and hold her when she's screaming while I make her a bottle. This one night, he was "really tired" (seriously?!) And refused to get out of bed. I could hear her screaming from downstairs and it literally broke my heart that my poor baby was screaming alone in her crib. I was crying myself I was so upset about it and it bothered me all day. He hasn't done that since, lucky for him.
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January 12th, 2013, 09:05 AM
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Um, I would be PISSED. Frank can sleep through a lot too. I think I told you guys that I woke up the other night and he had rolled onto Cal's arm and her AND him both slept through. Needless to say, it scared me to death and he's been on the couch ever since I don't blame you for being upset, but you didn't fail her. Lucky for us, we don't start doing things that traumatize them they they remember for at least another 5 or 6 years.
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January 12th, 2013, 09:38 AM
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She has been extra super cuddly to mom these past two days. No harm done but DH is on the couch and LO is my little buddy.
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January 12th, 2013, 09:57 AM
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Kelly, that is awful, I'm so sorry to hear that happened! Don't worry, you didn't fail her, your hubby did. Don't worry about any permanent damage, she's probably already forgotten.
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January 13th, 2013, 08:16 AM
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Aww, I would be so upset about that as well. But as others said, you didn't fail her and she won't remember it. So sorry it happened, though.
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