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Up until recently Ethan has been an amazing sleeper. He still is. . .once he actually goes to bed. For the past week or so, he has refused to sleep at bedtime! Has anyone else had this problem? His normal cycle is dinner, bath, bottle, rock for a few minutes, then bed. He used to lay down and go right to sleep, but now he puts up a huge fit! He kicks, screams, hits, you name it, unless you pick him up and he thinks he is going to go back up front with us. He's obviously tired, by 7 he is rubbing his eyes and yawning. I've tried an earlier bedime, and a later bedtime, but nothing is helping. It takes an hour or so to get him to sleep and its really getting difficult!
McKinley has to be held to go to sleep. Well she has to be held to go to sleep for first put down. Usually around 9PM shes ready for bed so I just hold her in my arms, she sometimes fights me but I just hold her arms and legs so she cant move lol. And she stops fighting within seconds. Then shes out and I put her into her crib. Throughout the night though she doesnt need to be held to go back to sleep.. but she is still waking up every 2... 2 1/2 hours. Its nuts. But she goes into bed with me after her first wake up. I cant keep getting out of bed to feed her or soothe her, its tiring.. its been 10 months of this, so into bed with me which makes it easier on both of us. But I hear yah about the sleeping problems. Im frustrated with mckinley not sleeping more than a couple hours. She goes right back to sleep once I feed her but its just ughhh cant you just stay asleep!!
Have you tried soothing music or a noise machine? Those help McKinley not need to be held to sleep after her initial first put down for bedtime.
He used to have a mobile, but he got to where he could pull that down, so I bought him a little elephant that plays the same noise. I also have one of those womb-sounds bear that I use sometimes, but it doesn't seem to be that he needs noise to fall asleep. I've tried holding him, but he doesn't want nothing to do with it. For such a little guy, he sure is strong. Some nights he wants to lay on my bed with me, and he falls asleep almost instantly. But nights like last night, that doesn't work either. He just doesn't want to sleep no matter how tired he is! Once he goes to sleep he does great, about 12 hours straight. Every once in awhile he wakes up around 4 in the morning, but I just get him and pull him into bed with me till he wakes up again.
When he does this, are you putting him down and staying in the room? Or do you put him down and leave? If you are staying, have you tried leaving? I know that sometimes me being in the room makes Addy not want to be in the bed with me. He may be going through a leap, so it may just be a phase. Addy, knock on wood, has finally started STTN as of last week. I discovered that she will fight me if I hold her, so I put her in her crib (or DH does) and she will fuss for a minute, then she just talks or "sings" herself to sleep. You could try one of these:
Reagan loved hers! I would turn it on and she would fall asleep watching and listening to it. It works for Addy sometimes, also, if there is a bathroom near his bedroom, try turning the shower on. In the morning, I hear Addy up around 5, DH gets in the shower around then, it seems to calm her. I have tried it at naptime too, seems to work then too!
It sounds like he is a little insecure. I would do the regular thing once he is in his room and walk back in and pat him a little if needed. Don't change a routine that worked for you. Even when insecure, he needs consistency. I believe this is just a phase. A tough one, but it will be over soon.
ETA: I have heard before that bath excites babies. Try skipping it one day or move it up in his routine.
I was having an issue with Jill a few weeks ago when she had a bad rash. She has always slept well now not so much. I started sleep training her. The first night was rough but within a few days she slept through the night. I put her down and left the room for five minutes. After that I went in and comforted her for a minute. I did not pick her up just rubbed her back told her I loved her. Then back out for another five minutes. Back in another minute then out for ten minutes back in for one. It taught her to self sooth. I realize this is not for everyone but it really worked for us. Now she goes down by herself and sleeps all night. If she wakes up at night now I hear her but she rolls around and goes right back to sleep.
The suggestion about the crib aquarium definitely helped a ton! I didn't get that particular one, because I was afraid he would just want to stand up and play with it. But I liked the idea, so I went to wal-mart and found this instead.
It projects a rotating image onto the ceiling and plays music. The lady singing is super annoying, but there is one setting that doesn't sing, so I leave it on that one. It worked like a charm. I laid him down wide awake and he stared at the image on the ceiling till he fell asleep. I like that it can either attach to the crib, or sit on a dresser. I attached it to the back corner of his crib on the outside where he can't see or get to it, so he isn't tempted to play with it. So far he loves it! He's never had a problem sleeping through the night luckily, so now that it's easier to get him to sleep, nights aren't near as hard for us anymore.
I know for sure he's teething.=( He's trying to cut his second bottom left one, but teething has never been a huge issue with us at bedtime (thank goodness!) That projector I got him has worked wonders. After I got it, I found another one at target that has different image discs to project, so I got it too and it helps soo much. I lay him in the crib and he cries for a couple seconds then sees the image on the ceiling and falls right asleep.