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I know this doesn't really have anything to do with kids, but I just need to rant!! Yesterday was Ethan's birthday party, a pool party. We sent out invitations to everyone in both of our (very large) families. Nobody in his family except his parents bothered to show up. (That's not what I'm mainly mad at, but it did bother me a bit). My husband (Ricky) has been excited for this party for awhile because he was looking forward to seeing his family that he doesn't see very often because they live far away. He didn't go swimming much the last week because we've been busy getting ready, so he was really looking forward to swimming with Ethan and everyone else. Party day finally comes, and his parents show up right on time. We go outside to greet them and as we're walking up his dad says first thing "Wow Rick, you've been gaining weight!" (he hasn't, he's actually lost 10 lbs and a pants size). Then his mom chimes in "Yeah you have!". It made me soooo mad! He responded saying I've been feeding him well or something like that, but I know it hurt his feelings because he refused to even get in the pool after that! Ugh I could have smacked them for saying that. I swear I have the most evil in-laws. They always have something negative to say about him, which is why we never see them. If they weren't his parents I would choose we have nothing to do with them. Unfortunately I am stuck with them.
Sorry to hear that hun, I would certainly be upet too. Hopefully your hubby doesn't let it get to him too bad, although I'm sure it's tough. Just let him know that your proud of him & you love him just the way he is! I know family can be difficult, & sometimes we deal with them simply because they are family or for the kids' sake; but consider maybe taking a step back from them, even temporarily, & not including them as much in your lives. Maybe they will get the hint that you don't appreciate or tolerate that type of behavior. After all, if they can make those type of comments to their son what will they say to their grandchildren....?