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The twins were sleeping great (sometimes sleeping thru the night, sometimes waking up once to eat) before vacation. They slept great while we were gone. Now that we are home, it is a disaster. We have kept the same routines (bath, pajamas, stories and singing songs while they have a bottle, and then they go into their cribs). Now all of the sudden, even if they are sleeping hard when I take them to their cribs, they SCREAM when I lay them down. This happens for naps and bedtime with both kids, and I am so confused. They scream like they are having their arms ripped off!
I have tried white noise, pacis, blankets, making the room colder, making the room warmer, making the room dark, using night lights, Tylenol (they are both cutting teeth) etc. and it is the same every day. I'm out of ideas!
I will not let them cry it out...that is not an option for us. I sit with them and pat their backs, sing to them, etc. to try and calm them, but they freak out until I pick them up again. A lot of times they'll fall right asleep when I pick them up, but then as soon as they lay down they freak out again. Eventually they are too tired to fight it anymore and go to sleep, but I can't do an hour of two babies screaming twice or three times a day...it is really wearing me down.
Help! Any ideas/advice would be great. Claire never went thru this, so I feel totally lost.
Melissa & DH
IVF babies Claire (5), Abigail (3) and George (3)
i'm sorry their habits changed.... we are not cio's either over here and with Annie we did pick up/put down when she stopped staying asleep/calm when we just put her to bed. it was a LOT of work but totally paid off and she became a very independant sleeper. i followed baby whisperer ideas for that (what we did stemmed from her ideas is what i mean but we didn't follow exactly, like for instance she loved teh song cecilia by simon and garfunkle so we would always play that for her while putting her to bed -kept it on repeat). I can't remember how long it took until it didn't take 2 hours like you described anymore, but we did it because we didn't want to cio....
with mathieu he does go to sleep independently already, because i worked on that from the beginning - he just won't stay asleep....
I'm sorry they are in such a tough phase right now. how long have you been back home? Maybe they just need to get used to being home again. It's probably a lot of change for them to switch locations several times. Hugs mama and I hope it gets better soon. Oh and I also wanted to say yay for not resorting to CIO. I refuse to do that too, no matter how hard it gets.
If Madalyn is fussy at bedtime, I kinda do the "interval" thing. Rub her back and shush her for a few minutes, leave the room for just like 5 minutes and repeat. If she's really upset, I do pick her up and rock her. Last night was rough and DH cuddled on the floor with her for 20 minutes. Then she slept for 90 minutes and then woke up crying again. Decided to give her Motrin and then she was out til morning ... Darn teeth!!
__________________ | Jessica | Wisconsin | Happily married since 8/22/08 |
We have been home 2 weeks. I suppose they could still be adjusting...I figured they would be relieved to not sleep in those pack-n-plays anymore?
Last night was rough again. Took over an hour to get them down, then George woke at 1:15 and 5:15 and it took 30 minutes of screaming each time before he went back down. Abigail woke at 6 and I didn't even try to put her back in the crib...she ate and then fell asleep on me while we waited for Claire to wake. Oh my I hope this phase runs its course soon before I lose my marbles!
DH joked about wearing 2 condoms last night because he is so scared of having another baby right now in all this craziness
Bless your heart, this too shall pass. I doubt if the trip has anything to do with it. Babies advance and regress all the time without any change in their routine. Luyando goes to sleep very easily while breastfeeding but just won't stay asleep. On average she wakes up 3 times a night to feed but goes back to sleep immediately after eating. It is hard and my hubby jokes that the rest of the family is paying for it because I have little patience for the rest of them. However, she doesn't drink a lot of milk during the day for whatever reason so I just let her feed (bottle of breastmilk and breastfeeding at night). She is a tiny peanut so going to indulge her as long as she wants to eat. All that to say, I'll be praying for you. I can't imagine having to care for two Luyandos. Hopefully the phase passes soon; I am sure teething definitely does not help! I just saw one of Luyndo's top teeth pop out which explains the crazy waking ups we've had lately. Ha ha!
I don't know how to help... sorry! I hope it gets better.
Mine don't sleep in their cribs until they are a year old (it's just a play place until then) and I just sit and rub their backs until they fall asleep. I just don't know how to do it for babies younger than that.
As much as it sucks, I've just come to the conclusion that aside from tending to pain if they are in pain, there isn't much that can be done to help them sleep. I think consistent routines help them to fall asleep but not stay asleep. I even asked my doctor who is a sleep specialist and he said the same thing. I hope they start sleeping better soon! Sean was up every 20 minutes until I finally took him in bed with me last night!
I appreciate all the advice and good thoughts, ladies! The last 2 days have been much better. Both babies napped without a fight both days, and at night they only whimper a little when I lay them down, and then they go right to sleep. I'm doing everything the same, so maybe they are finally settling into a better routine? Let's hope
This has definitely been one of the hardest parts of twins for me...I miss cosleeping so much. But now that they are older and mobile, if I sleep with one and the other wakes up, I can't leave the one I'm sleeping with to help the other one Makes me want to have another baby just so I can get some more cosleeping snuggles!
Melissa & DH
IVF babies Claire (5), Abigail (3) and George (3)