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So today has just not been my day at all. Kinda an overflow from yesterday. Yesterday I went out and cleaned up our backyard which looked like a junk yard/jungle. I have 3 dogs who are incredibly destructive and anything they can get their teeth on, they tear up. So there was crap everywhere. Got all that picked up and bagged and then knocked all the weeds down and mowed. Took a couple of hours but it got done. Trash doesn't go out until tonight though, so I left the bags out there and just kept an eye on the dogs to make sure they didn't get into them. Lot of good that did me. They tore into the bags on 3 separate occasions, all within a 15 minute span of me not watching. So I'm incredibly aggravated and just want to pull my hair out. Then I went to return my neighbors mower today and realized they had chewed through the dang pull string. So now I have to take it in tomorrow and pay to have it fixed before I can return it to them. I am at my wits end. The dogs need to go, but I just have a hellacious guilty conscience every time I think about getting rid of them. But it really does need to be done. I just don't have the time or patience to devote to them and they deserve to be with people who can give them what I can't. I have held on this long thinking that once my hormones are back to normal, I'll tolerate them a little better, but I don't want to tolerate them, I want them to be loved and taken care of. So now I'm researching shelters in the area and trying to find somewhere to take them and it's just racking me up inside.
The other part of my day that has sucked was going to an acquaintance's baby shower. She has a daughter that is 6 months younger than Rilynn and she is preggo with a little boy and due 3 weeks before me. We're not getting a baby shower this time, which is fine with me because we really didn't need anything anyways, and anything we did need, I've picked up a little here and there over time. But I was still a little jealous and felt awkward going because I really don't know her that well. So I stop at the store on the way and I stood there trying to decide what to get her for a gift for like 20 minutes because my selfish b*tchiness took over and I refused to buy anything that I liked for someone ELSE'S baby, when I'm expecting the same gender just a couple weeks later. I know that probably sounds horrible, but I totally felt like I was only invited because it was another gift on the table. So anyways, I get there and don't know anyone and just felt really awkward and spent the whole time chasing Rilynn just because I didn't have anyone else to really talk to. It was awful. And when I left, I still really felt like it was a waste of $30.
Overall, I just am having an I-feel-down-and-want-to-cry-for-no-real-reason kind of day. Sorry this was so long and random, and in the scheme of things, this all sounds so trivial but dang it I just needed to vent and while I know it's trivial, I don't feel bad for feeling bad. Thanks for letting me get it out. =/
Mommy to Rilynn (3-26-10) and Colt (3-22-12)
So I stop at the store on the way and I stood there trying to decide what to get her for a gift for like 20 minutes because my selfish b*tchiness took over and I refused to buy anything that I liked for someone ELSE'S baby, when I'm expecting the same gender just a couple weeks later.
I genuinely LOL'ed at this. Mostly because I think I probably would be the exact same way. I have intentionally bought ugly things for baby showers before. I'm not proud of this... but I wanted you to know that you're not alone
I'm sorry you had such a sh*t day. I hope tomorrow's much better.
What kind of dogs are they? Have you thought about maybe contacting a breed specific rescue (if they are of a certain breed)? If they don't have room to take them they might let you post an ad on their website or something.
We had to get rid of all our animals (other than our lizard - he is so low maintenance) last spring because my husband lost his job. We had a very hard time last year. I felt guilty but it was the best thing to do. I used to work with animal rescues and so I felt like I was just another one of those families who get an animal then as soon as a child enters the family they dispose of them. We really just could not afford them anymore though. There were days when they didn't get to eat if we didn't have scraps (couldn't afford dog food anymore) and they had not been to the vet in probably three years.
We had 2 pugs and 2 rabbits. They needed to be with families who could properly care for them. I put our pugs up for adoption on craigslist and they actually went to a family that already had pugs so it made me feel a LOT better.
I feel pretty "done" when it comes to owning animals now. We even got rid of our 5 fish/turtle tanks because we didn't have the money for upkeep or the time to clean them properly. Now all we have is the lizard and 2 kitties. We got the kitties this past summer but only bc we needed something that would catch rats and mice. We had a rat die under the house last spring and the smell was horrendous. They are doing their job though so hopefully we won't have any more problems like that.
Anyway, I totally understand feeling like you need to get rid of the dogs. Ours were tearing up stuff as well and my husband was really losing his patience with dealing with them. It was too much stress on top of us being negative in the bank and not having luck with finding a job...etc.
I have a beagle, a golden retriever, and a boxer mutt. I found an animal center that's no kill and has amazing phenomenal reviews for how they treat their animals so I'm going to go there tomorrow and check it out and ask questions. Then I'll sit on it for a day or two before making a final decision. I just don't want to be rash about anything.
I love my dog, but he is super easy. However, when I came back from the hospital after Andrew, my love and interest in my dogs was zero. I would have cared less if they were there or not there. Now, the last thing you need are three dogs making your life a living hell when you have a new baby, the dogs must go. And this is coming from a dog lover.
We had a dog we weren't attached to and I put her up on Craigslist with a small adoption fee, she went within a week. I totally would have bought the ugliest gift too. I am actually having a hard time limiting my invite list to my shower, personal friends were easy but then I started putting down women from the church and I've had to add about 10 women to the original list because they all were like "where is my invite" and of course they are all older, matriarch type women in our church, what do say to them? Sorry, you can't come, even though all your friends here are?
“First things first, but not necessarily in that order.” The Doctor
I don't blame you at all. We got rid of our dog back in August, right when we moved. He was a great dog, but when we left the house, he panicked and would start tearing things up. We couldn't cage him because he chewed through 4 crates and he was just terribly destructive when we left him alone, so we just made the decision to relocate him to a better home. I feel guilty about it sometimes, but I know it was the right decision for us.