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April 21st, 2013, 09:14 AM
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I'm pregnant by my oldest son's father and he just decided to try to work things out with his youngest son's mother, but he has no plans to tell her. I have no desire to be in a relationship with him and I feel like she should know sooner rather than later so that they can figure out their relationship and so that we are all on the same page. I just want him to be there for his children plain and simple and I want her to know this wasn't planned nor done maliciously. Some of my friends feel as a woman I should speak up and I somewhat feel the same way because I would want someone to show me that respect, but on the other hand I don't want to piss him off and he disappears on his children. A close friend of mine also made a point saying that it's not my place especially since she sat back knowing he wasn't participating in my son's life for a year. Any good woman/mother wouldn't stand for that period because they wouldn't want their own child to go through that. The person that I am would have reached out to the Mom as a woman to try to come together and figure things out. She said I always am caring about folks that haven't gave a **** about me. I'm so lost.
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April 21st, 2013, 10:45 AM
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That's a hard situation, I don't know! In reality, HE should tell her. I don't think you really have any responsibility toward her. And you telling her could come across as vindictive.

But...I do think she should be told. It's something I would want to know if I were in the situation, so I don't know. Good luck!
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April 21st, 2013, 02:13 PM
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I think it is his responsibility to tell her as well. When I got pregnant with my oldest I had no idea the guy was married (separated) or that she was pregnant but I would never blame her for me not knowing anything. If where you live is anything like where I do the word will get back to her on it's own and she can deal with him then.
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April 21st, 2013, 02:30 PM
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It's not your place to tell her. It is his. You can suggest in a somewhat ****** way if you want that he needs to tell her before she finds out and it makes things harder for him in the long run but if it were me I would leave it alone for now. Things have a way of working themselves out
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April 21st, 2013, 02:31 PM
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I totally agree with Brittanie. She needs to be told but he needs to man up and be the one to tell her.
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April 21st, 2013, 02:35 PM
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Thanks y'all! I'm going to leave it alone and hope and pray for the best.
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