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  #61  
June 10th, 2013, 07:54 PM
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If we have a boy whether we decide to circ or not is personally not anyone's business. DH and I will research and make the best decision for us. I will not discuss it with anyone else. It is our child and our decision. Thank you ladies for posting links to both sides. I agree with an earlier poster, topics like this are like politics and religion and I chose not to discuss them.
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June 10th, 2013, 08:33 PM
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I keep seeing "as long as you make an educated choice" or "as long as you do your research". I'm not sure that even matters to me. If someone makes a choice based on complete ignorance of the topic and they make the best decision they feel they can make for their child, then the outcome is completely irrelevant. I don't believe that the large majority of people flip a coin and do it. I think they are making the choice that they believe is in the best interest of their child, regardless of the information behind it.

I know there are sometimes problems on both sides but the number of complications on either side versus the number of decisions in this topic being made on a daily basis prove that neither of the choices is most likely going to irreparably harm your child physically, mentally or emotionally.

Why can't we all just support each other in the decisions we make? Whether I agree or disagree, I will defend your right to make the decision you believe is the best for your child in any one of the controversial topics. We face enough judgment and criticism from friends, family and society. Why not agree that as moms we will support each other?
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June 10th, 2013, 11:16 PM
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Why can't we all just support each other in the decisions we make? Whether I agree or disagree, I will defend your right to make the decision you believe is the best for your child in any one of the controversial topics. We face enough judgment and criticism from friends, family and society. Why not agree that as moms we will support each other?
While everyone is bringing up good points from sides and posting good links.

I have to say though that this is the absolute best thing I've ever heard regarding mommy debates.
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June 11th, 2013, 09:25 AM
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In the end, everyone is going to make their own decision. My whole thing is, like ChicaChels said, more parents need to know that this IS a decision, and that there is an alternative option to circumcision. Rather than going in thinking that circumcision is the only route.
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June 11th, 2013, 09:34 AM
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No offense, but I'm not sure how anyone can think that circumcision is the only route. When I had my boys, I was asked if I wanted them circumcized or not. No one pressured me to do it and obviously if I was asked then there was another option. It's not like the Dr. took the baby and did it without asking. Obviously the baby is born uncircumcized so you would have the option of keeping him that way as the other option to circumcision.
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June 11th, 2013, 09:51 AM
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No offense, but I'm not sure how anyone can think that circumcision is the only route. When I had my boys, I was asked if I wanted them circumcized or not. No one pressured me to do it and obviously if I was asked then there was another option. It's not like the Dr. took the baby and did it without asking. Obviously the baby is born uncircumcized so you would have the option of keeping him that way as the other option to circumcision.

We have to sign forms to be treated for a broken arm. That doesn't make someone stop and think "why am I signing a form, is there another route?".

When all you know is "everyone is cir'd" then thats all you know. Forms or not.

I wouldnt have known otherwise had it not been for my JM family. I grew up believing it was 'dirty' and only 'poor foreign countries full of AID's don't do it'. Never even learned about foreskin in my college sex ed classes.
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I always assumed I would have it done but when we found out our 2nd was a boy, I felt like I needed to research it. After finding that it wasn't medically necessary I looked into it more and what swayed me to leaving him in tact was a forum I found of men who had not been circ'd as babies but had it done as an adult - the only people who truly knew both sides. And every single one of them regretted having it done. Thankfully, after researching on his own, my husband came to the same conclusion so it wasn't an issue and we left him, and our next boy, in tact
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June 11th, 2013, 08:48 PM
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Honestly coming from someone who is learning more about the pro's/con's I've really enjoyed reading the comments from you ladies and seeing it from both perspectives.

This topic first arose between me and DF a few weeks ago when we were discussing the "if we have a boy" type topics. He immediately said he DID NOT want our son circumcised. When DF was born the nurse came in and said " ok we're going to do the circumcision now'' and his mother was like "whooooaaa....heck no". At first I balked at the thought of not doing it...DF isn't and I had no problems with that, but my thoughts were along the lines of where I've lived all my life and in my family it's one of those "expected" things and to be honest I was afraid of judgement. However, after watching about 2 minutes of a circumcision on a newborn boy I started looking into the topic more, and as of now, it's not something that we prefer for our child. All the male children in my family are, which is fine for them, but our little one can do without that in my opinion.
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June 15th, 2013, 11:34 AM
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Wow....I'm reading this thread I started....and I really hope I didn't alienate anyone....

So here's what I got from this:
*DO YOUR RESEARCH!
*Every family is different, so do what you feel is right and just for your son
*This is not the only controversy on babies out there
*Children will always find something to make fun of others for (that might just be my own thought)

Maybe if we do have a boy, I won't tell anyone whether he's circed or not. That's his and his parent's business. I personally would feel as if his privacy was being displayed.

Also, I have never had sex with a man who was circed! I've never really given it much thought....it wasn't really my first thought in DTD anyway
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I'm not from this ddc but I saw this topic and was interested. In the UK nobody has their sons circumcised except for Jewish people. I understand if they follow that in their religion.I wouldn't put my kids through any proceedure that wasn't necessary. So what are the reasons for the proceedure?
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June 15th, 2013, 03:58 PM
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So it wouldn't naturally occur to you that you can keep your child the way he was born if others hadn't told you? Forget signing papers, if a child is born intact he can stay that way. IDK maybe because I figured that out on my own I assume everyone could. Every male in my family is circ'ed and every guy I had been with had been circ'ed but I still knew I had the option to keep my sons intact.

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We have to sign forms to be treated for a broken arm. That doesn't make someone stop and think "why am I signing a form, is there another route?".

When all you know is "everyone is cir'd" then thats all you know. Forms or not.

I wouldnt have known otherwise had it not been for my JM family. I grew up believing it was 'dirty' and only 'poor foreign countries full of AID's don't do it'. Never even learned about foreskin in my college sex ed classes.
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June 16th, 2013, 08:58 AM
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So it wouldn't naturally occur to you that you can keep your child the way he was born if others hadn't told you? Forget signing papers, if a child is born intact he can stay that way. IDK maybe because I figured that out on my own I assume everyone could. Every male in my family is circ'ed and every guy I had been with had been circ'ed but I still knew I had the option to keep my sons intact.
Apparently you didn't read my post. It naturally occured to me that all i knew about forskin prior to researching myself was exactly what i posted earlier. That it was dirty and only not done in poor countries.
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So it wouldn't naturally occur to you that you can keep your child the way he was born if others hadn't told you? Forget signing papers, if a child is born intact he can stay that way. IDK maybe because I figured that out on my own I assume everyone could. Every male in my family is circ'ed and every guy I had been with had been circ'ed but I still knew I had the option to keep my sons intact.
I have to say that around the area I am now...no it wouldn't occur to them. It is what everyone does because they are supposed to. Most of them don't know there is another way. To them having them cut is the only way and what is natural. This is hard to explain on here. I don't think it occurs to most of them that their baby can remain that way because all they know/hear/learn about is circumcision. Does that make any sense?
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^^ yes it makes sense - another thing for me, if you look through a&p books, sex ed books, etc...the penises are ALWAYS circumcised. americans just generally aren't exposed to intact penises. i had a doula client who didnt know what she was having and when the baby came out an intact boy she thought there was something wrong with him and he had a growth. she didnt realize they were born that way and circumcision was a surgical procedure. you'd be surprised what people do and don't know!
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I liken it to this: Some people really are born in a barn! LOL! I am sure I have a few issues like this as well.
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I liken it to this: Some people really are born in a barn! LOL! I am sure I have a few issues like this as well.
Not to make light of the original issue, but I just realized the other day that frozen yogurt wasn't another name for a special kind of ice cream, it is actually yogurt that's frozen. You'd think at 29 years old, I'd have had that figured out, but I really had no clue...my husband was amazed.
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LOL! That makes me think of Jessica Simpson and Chicken of the Sea....
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Ahh the wonders of a "gifted" mind.
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I have enjoyed reading both sides. I will still make my own decision regardless.

My eyes have been opened up though that there are options.
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