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June 22nd, 2013, 05:27 PM
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Ok I know it sounds awful but I'm not there yet. I felt a tinge of excitement at my first u/s but that faded fast due to feeling like crap most of the time. I feel terribly guilty like I'm a bad person but I can't deny the fact that I'm not feeling much of anything towards the baby. I feel like I was way more excited and into my past pregnancies by now. I'm hoping once I have my anatomy u/s and start to feel movement that I'll feel more attached.

Anyone else feeling this way? Like totally apathetic about the pregnancy and baby?
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June 22nd, 2013, 05:47 PM
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I am excited, but not nearly as much as I was with my others. I think the losses after my daughter was born are the reason. I'm cautiously optimistic, but still nervous. It'll feel more real once I get the anatomy ultrasound and the babies are much bigger and I find out what they are and can name them.
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June 22nd, 2013, 06:20 PM
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Please don't beat yourself up! It will come when it's important, and the love will just runneth over.
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June 22nd, 2013, 06:21 PM
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Most of the time I don't think about being pregnant. Unless I'm overly nauseated. I don't really feel attached until the baby is born, really. You know what, THAT'S OKAY! It doesn't mean you don't love the baby. We're just kind of living in an unreal limbo right now.

I'm sure when you start feeling regular movement, things will start to change.
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June 22nd, 2013, 07:26 PM
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Same here. I'm too busy to think about it. But I will say I have zero desire to buy things. I just keep saying blah I will buy it after he is here lol.
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June 22nd, 2013, 10:41 PM
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The only baby I have been attached to before birth has been Brylie. Otherwise is just "yep got another one baking", but as soon as I saw hunter, I was head over heels, and I'm sure ill be the same for maverick. I think for me, I know what's coming. The first 6w are ROUGH.
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June 23rd, 2013, 03:39 AM
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I am attached but I have to sorta make myself. All the losses I had and being instantly attatched and then having to give up on it really changed everything for me. I'm too afraid to let it all sink in. I know once I can feel regular movements and know the gender, it will change. It's totally normal to feel disassociated right now! It will come in time!
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June 23rd, 2013, 05:08 AM
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I haven't had any losses in the past and I am not as attached to this baby nor as excited to be pregnant. I honestly still havent told anybody except those I can't hide it from because I'm showing. This one came as a suprise and not under the best circumstances. I was on BC and he (and his family) thought he was infertile because a 4 year fiance never got pregnant with him but turned around and got pregnant right away with her now husband.
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June 23rd, 2013, 05:33 AM
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Don't stress too much! I'm sure the fuurther you get along, the mor attached you'll get
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June 23rd, 2013, 08:02 AM
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I was so excited for my first, but then every one after that, it seems like the anxiety and nervousness has overridden my excitement.
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June 23rd, 2013, 10:23 AM
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This is my first and from the beginning it's been almost total anxiety and nervousness and sometimes downright meltdowns and fear. I think it's because DF and I were not prepared and I'm one of those people when I get stressed out I go into this mode where I'm almost mechanical and try to get done whatever needs to be done till I burnout and have a meltdown. That has been this pregnancy so far with a few sweet moments, like the ultrasounds and such. I'm ready for something, anything to eliminate some of this stress so I can enjoy this!
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June 23rd, 2013, 10:40 AM
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I haven't felt really connected with this baby either. I've also felt the worst this pregnancy and I have two other children that keep me busy. I agree with the other ladies, the bonding with baby will come in time. Don't beat yourself up hon, I think what you feel is completely normal.
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