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June 24th, 2013, 10:52 AM
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What do you guys think of this?


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June 24th, 2013, 12:57 PM
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yea I saw that and it's so wrong.. and the parents are wrong also for allowing the 1st grader to make a decision like that...

I just don't have the words to say for this..
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June 24th, 2013, 01:03 PM
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I honestly don't know what I think anymore~I've been through HUGE changes in my beliefs in the last few years. I don't feel I can judge this child/family. I would not choose to do this with one of my own children, but it takes all kind of us to make a world! And I wish this family and child nothing but the best.

Does that answer your Q? Or are you talking more about the ruling? Again, I don't know if I have an opinion. How would I feel if my own girls shared this bathroom? I guess it would be time for family talks on the subject. Our world is always changing, and we need to know how live here together. I would be loathe to discover that my children were yucky to any child in any situation.
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June 24th, 2013, 01:22 PM
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I honestly don't know how I feel. The child is so young, but I have no experience with a young child who identifies with a different gender so who am I to judge.

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June 24th, 2013, 02:18 PM
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This is one of those topics that I sit in between not totally agreeing but who am I to whats right or wrong.. so I'm just happy I'm not the judge who has to rule anything lol
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June 24th, 2013, 03:10 PM
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I think this is the right action taken as a caring parent. I once saw a program about a little boy who wanted to be a girl so badly he tried to cut his parts off! His mom caught him thankfully and from that point they let him identify as a girl. The strongest thing she said was "I'd rather have a living daughter than a dead son." So true.
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June 24th, 2013, 03:16 PM
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If this child were in a class with my daughter...and they were in the bathroom together...as long as Erin didn't see, I wouldn't care. Not that it's nothing she hasn't seen before (her brother loves to run around naked). I'm not sure what *I* would do if Patrick identified as a girl instead of a boy, I don't think that's something I could decide without being in the situation. But I've known transgender adults, and we've talked of how deeply awful it is to not feel "right" in your own body. I know that I hate my natural hair color and feel much more "right" when I've colored it, so how much more painful can not feeling the right sex be? So I don't feel like I can judge that family.

But as long as she keeps her parts to herself in the bathroom, who cares?
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June 24th, 2013, 03:22 PM
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IDK, call me close minded I just don't get how this 6 yr old child has decided that he'd rather be a girl than a boy. I don't know the kid or the family but sometimes I feel like stuff like this involving kids is a cry for attn by the parents. Again, I could be wrong just my knee jerk reaction to it.
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June 24th, 2013, 04:25 PM
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There is a lot of research that indicates being transgender is not a decision, but genetics -- as in you were given the wrong parts. If this child identifies as girl but has boy parts, i am glad the parents are not forcing her to be miserable in the wrong sex. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, its a duck. No children should be sharing a stall anyway so i dont understand the banning of her from the girls restroom.
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June 24th, 2013, 04:28 PM
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I've worked with very young children who have had these feelings and it's something that comes from a complete place of innocence in a child that young. They don't know that it's something shocking or attention-getting at all. It's just a feeling they have that they don't fit into the world as the world defines them by their genitalia.

I can't say that I could imagine any parent wanting to undergo the scrutiny and judgement this kind of situation would bring them in order to get attention either. Not to mention that this puts their child out there in a way that can never be taken back. They are opening their family to all sorts of hatred from people who don't understand. At some point in Cory's teen years, one of her classmates may find these articles. I don't think they would subject her to this unless they felt it were necessary. Most of the kids I worked with, their parents really struggled with it and were in counseling both by themselves and with their child in order to process it.

I have no idea what I would do if one of my beautiful girls came to me and said they wanted to be a boy at this young an age, but I suppose in that situation, I would get us all the support that was needed and we'd make the best decision we could for our family, just as we do with any other issue.

I pray for this family and all of those struggling to deal with this gray area in a world full of black and white, right and wrong, legalistic views.
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