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June 27th, 2013, 08:18 PM
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DF went to visit a friend tonight who is in ICU, turns out he is doing better. But that is the sidestory...this friend of his had some buddies from A-ville which is a good 1.5 hr drive from here that came to see him. Supposedly their ride left them stranded here...so being the soft-hearted guy that he is DF is going to give them a ride home.
Now this is my problem.
We just drove to and from Aville last night to get his friend who just got out of Boot Camp, we didn't get home till 1:30 am, DF got up at 6 and left for work at 6:30...he worked 13 hrs, gets home eats a tiny bit of dinner then goes to check on his friend and now this bullcrap. He's going on around 4 hrs of sleep and almost no dinner and he will probably get home the same time tonight.
And I am absolutely furious....I love him for being so big-hearted that he will go out of his way for people. But maybe a ****** but my attitude is "I don't know them... not my problem...get a hotel..catch a bus...again...not my problem!" It just ticks me off that I see him today for maybe 15 min and he's driving 3 hrs to and back and I know how delirious he gets when he get tired and I'm worried about him falling asleep while driving.
He wouldn't let me go because "I'd be too tired" Well big F ing deal because I'm not getting any sleep till he gets home and I've got to be at work at eight in the morning."

I really just want to slap the crap out of him right now. He doesn't seem to understand that as overprotective as he is of me right now I feel the SAME way about HIM!





Ugh...sorry for such a long rant

I'm gonna eat chocolate pie and watch tv shows on Netflix now
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June 27th, 2013, 08:39 PM
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My husband is also too nice. I've actually worked really hard to help him learn to say no sometimes. I'd be upset too.
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June 27th, 2013, 08:48 PM
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It's like why do I always have to feel like the cold-hearted one and the one that's like no way?! He would give his shirt off his back to someone, and probably his shoes and pants too!
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June 27th, 2013, 09:05 PM
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Yep. I love that he's so generous and kind, but there comes a time when there needs to be a priority made for his family. And you're NOT wrong to expect that.
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June 28th, 2013, 03:02 AM
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In our relationship, I'm the one that's like your husband. My darling says that sometimes he loves me for it, and sometimes he hates me for it, as he sees what it does to me.

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June 28th, 2013, 04:31 AM
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My husband's like your fiancé, too. Goes out of his way for ppl. Particularly his mom and sisters who, I believe, take advantage sometimes. I'm the cold hearted one who has to telling him he's doing too much. Of course when it comes to his mom and sisters (his dad has passed) nothing is ever too much. Argh! So yeah I feel you and it is frustrating!
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June 28th, 2013, 06:56 AM
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I would be upset too. I would spend the night worrying too! (((hugs)))
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June 28th, 2013, 07:08 AM
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I don't blame you I'd be upset too .. Although I'm glad my dh has a solid foot and know when to say no !

However chocolate pie! Sounds delish
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June 28th, 2013, 07:23 AM
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mmm Chocolate Pie... :drool:

Wait, what? Oh yeah, the fiance thing. I'd be upset too. I worry when my husband has to drive the short 8 miles to work and he hasn't slept much. Maybe when you've calmed down and can discuss it without being irritated, explain how you appreciate his kind heart and that he's willing to help others, but that while you guys are preparing for the baby at the house, he needs to start preparing himself to think about the family he's made before he agrees to things like that. Even right now, ask him to think about if you had been further along in your pregnancy and went into labor while he was doing that. That could have been scary for you and frustrating for him to be so far away.
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