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July 24th, 2013, 05:08 AM
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Wives who stood by their men - CNN.com
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July 24th, 2013, 05:42 AM
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I'm not sure there's a hard and fast rule for me. I think it would just depend on the circumstances and how well I knew my husband. I'm not sure how much the embarrassment and my pride/dignity of a public scandal would play into it, having not been in their place.

Abedin and Hilary Clinton had a lot of judgment for their choice to stay, but that's no one else's business. Without knowing what has happened in the past or what has happened between them privately, I don't think their public decisions are a good indicator of their strength as women.
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July 24th, 2013, 06:30 AM
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I noticed all the women looked like were crying and/or about to.

Err, honestly I have no idea if I would stand by... who knows of the whole background..

I mean who knows, it's always a possibility that there marriages were more of a facade- a "lets stay together for the press to portray the happy american family"
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July 24th, 2013, 06:33 AM
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I didn't really mean if you were a political figure. I meant if you and your DH were in that situation.

I know what I'd do, because I have already been in that position. And I kicked my ex-H straight to the curb.
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July 24th, 2013, 06:45 AM
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haha, well in that case... he's gone. Hate to say it but I give people ONE chance.

You destroy my trust you're gone.

I've tried in the past to give people extra chances but all they do is walk all over me when i take them back.
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July 24th, 2013, 06:54 AM
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DH and I both have no tolerance for lying, cheating, whatever. We're pretty conservative people with a bit of a temper, so I can honestly say, if this were to happen to either of us, the marriage would be over, and it may be ugly

I just don't understand it. Trust is so fragile and marriage is sacred. How can someone screw with that, unless it's already over and they just need an out and to get caught?

I'm sure there are many, many circumstances to this, but the results are the same.
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July 24th, 2013, 07:15 AM
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I always said kick him to the curb, no tolerance for it, I find cheating appalling in every sense. and then my DH cheated on me, we were going through a very very very hard time, he was in the military so we got married so young and he was 3000 miles away from me at the time. WHILE these we're no excuse, I stayed and worked things out. this was 4 years ago and sometimes it still embarasses me and no one besides a handful of people know. I couldn't imagine having the world know. this all being said, I love my husband very much but if I so much as see an inappropriate text or hear something that I don't like, I will not stay. I've gone through too much pain to repeatedly put myself through it.
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July 24th, 2013, 07:47 AM
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*** you. Good bye!

It would take a lot for me to give a second chance. Though by friend did and her relationship is better because of it.

Now that Wiener wife...she is a dope. LOL
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My gut reaction is to divorce. But truthfully, my husband is also father to my 4 kids. It would totally depend on the situation. Like..a one time indiscretion? Multiple and lengthy? I think I might try to get over it if I could. But boy it would be he**.
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July 24th, 2013, 08:28 AM
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LOLOL "Wiener wife" LOLOLOLOLOLOL

And why does his name have to be "Wiener"...KWIM?

The political family that floors me the most is the Clintons. Hillary is a ballbuster. I can't believe she didn't do a huge mic drop and walk off with middle fingers in the air and then STILL pursue her own political career. I would have dropped his *** so fast!
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If you had asked me a few years ago, I would have said drop him. But then, I was the one who strayed for a short period of time a few years ago. I never met the guy in person and that was probably what saved us, but the fact was that we had BOTH contributed to the break down in our relationship and we both worked through it. We almost never talk about it and I've felt guilty for nearly throwing away this relationship, but I don't think it's a black and white area for me anymore.
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I would have to actually find myself in that position to know what I'd do.
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July 24th, 2013, 10:22 AM
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It's definitely a grey area, no doubt about it. My husband had a drug problem before we met. I really didn't know anything about it nor the extent of it until several months into our whirlwind relationship. At the time, I was going through a custody battle with my ex and he was standing by my side throughout everything and all of the sudden I could tell something was different. He had started using again, prescription drugs, not anything crazy, but drugs all the same. I told him that we had no choice but to end things because I had a little girl and I couldn't put her in a situation like that. He did not meet my little girl until we had been together over a year. Not one time. If she was there, he was not and vise versa. After I told him the first time that we would have to end things, he cleaned up and we stayed together. He had a few relapses during that first year, which is most of the reason that he never met my daughter but I loved him and knew he could change and be a better man for it. I was right. He is a completely changed man and our relationship is much stronger today than it would have been had we not gone through all of that in the beginning. I know this is a not the same as the stories above but it's similar, I just felt like I needed to say that. You can't always judge a book by it's cover and you can NEVER judge someone until you've walked in their shoes. Things just aren't always as cut and dry as they seem.
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Not sure. If it happened more than once his butt is gone. I can say he's outta here if he does it once but you never know until your in that situation.
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