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August 6th, 2013, 04:12 PM
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I have a close group of friends who are doulas, but I didn't want to cross that line (again), so one recommended this girl named Ashley. I've been talking to her on FB quite a bit and finally today was the day....we booked her!

The best part? She's JUST finished her training and she's taking on clients for free! My fee is $500 and we will gift her something after the birth, but things are tight around here so Sam is SUPER excited that this is "Free" and he really likes her, too. (Which, after our last doula experience, he was so NOT on board).

Who else is using a doula? have you picked one yet?
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August 6th, 2013, 04:40 PM
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I'm not using a doula but I'm glad you found one that sounds like will be great!!!
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August 6th, 2013, 05:56 PM
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YAY for everything lining up for your doula! Sam liking her AND it's free? Couldn't have worked out better. I can totally see not wanting to cross the business/friend relationship by hiring a doula you are friends with. I can see how that could get sticky...
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August 6th, 2013, 06:06 PM
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AWESOMENESS!!! My midwife has a doula helper, but she's not ALWAYS available. We'll see what happens!
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August 6th, 2013, 06:40 PM
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That's awesome! So glad you got the best of both worlds there I agree, too, that it's a fine line and people are better off not to cross mixing dual relations. I hope you all continue to adore her and she works wonders during L&D!
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August 6th, 2013, 06:41 PM
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Lucky you! I wish I could find one for free!
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August 6th, 2013, 06:47 PM
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Lucky you! I wish I could find one for free!
try to find one who is still training. they're almost always free! When I was trying to reach my number to get certified I worked for free If you go to toLabor's website, or cappa, or dona they will usually list trainings if you PM me i might be able to find people. I have a good friend who is a midwife in PA - she works with doulas a lot in her job
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August 6th, 2013, 07:45 PM
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aww i'm happy for you.

if i can find one for free i am contemplating it.
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August 6th, 2013, 07:47 PM
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That's awesome!! I'm really glad Sam came around. I know you had some concerns with that at one point early on.
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I'm sort of kind of contemplating it. Just because labor is SUCH an anxious experience for me, and it is for Matt too, so he isn't really able to focus in the way I need him to (if that makes sense). Plus, it's kind of not his personality.

But, I know nothing about anything where we're moving!
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August 6th, 2013, 09:15 PM
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if anyone is looking for a doula, im pretty good at networking through most of the states. i know people in just about every state that are somehow involved in the birthy world. i would be MORE Than happy to try to help you!
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August 6th, 2013, 09:26 PM
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if anyone is looking for a doula, im pretty good at networking through most of the states. i know people in just about every state that are somehow involved in the birthy world. i would be MORE Than happy to try to help you!
I'll get back to you after I find a doctor....lol
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August 7th, 2013, 05:12 AM
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I am using one, but my hospital provides them for free so I don't get a choice. If it's free its for me!
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August 7th, 2013, 05:48 AM
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I talked to a friend yesterday who is about to have her third child and has done natural birth each time with a doula. I'm not sure that it's going to be beneficial for me since my situation seems so unpredictable. With the bleeding we've had I feel like I have no clue of what to expect. Is it worth getting a doula if I'm not sure I will be doing a natural birth and if I'm at risk for having an emergency C section?

Maybe I just need to talk with one to have a better understanding?
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August 7th, 2013, 06:07 AM
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A doula can be your second voice. Whether its in the OR or for a natural birth.

I am getting one because while my husband did a GREAT job during my first birth, and this is silly -- but I want someone who can hold my leg better than he did, and be more even MORE supportive, AND be a second voice. Sometimes in labor your forget to ask for something or forget to remind the doc/midwife of something and a doula comes in handy for that!
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August 7th, 2013, 01:23 PM
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A doula can be your second voice. Whether its in the OR or for a natural birth.

I am getting one because while my husband did a GREAT job during my first birth, and this is silly -- but I want someone who can hold my leg better than he did, and be more even MORE supportive, AND be a second voice. Sometimes in labor your forget to ask for something or forget to remind the doc/midwife of something and a doula comes in handy for that!
Thanks that is helpful!
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I talked to a friend yesterday who is about to have her third child and has done natural birth each time with a doula. I'm not sure that it's going to be beneficial for me since my situation seems so unpredictable. With the bleeding we've had I feel like I have no clue of what to expect. Is it worth getting a doula if I'm not sure I will be doing a natural birth and if I'm at risk for having an emergency C section?

Maybe I just need to talk with one to have a better understanding?
this really sounds like a perfect scenario in which you would really want a doula! doulas are taught labor coping technique, we are taught how to assess (with the family and provider) the risks/benefits of each intervention, the biggest thing I do is physical support because usually a SO provides the emotional support - many mommas like to lean against their SO and then they have me to rub their back, or squeeze their hips, or anything else they might want and then dad never has to leave - or if dad needs a break, mom isnt alone. sometimes Dr like to try to sneak in and pull the "your child is in danger" card when it's not necessarily true, but moms are easy targets when they're laboring alone - even just if dad went to get a drink, or go to the bathroom or get a snack...and ive had many moms go in planning on a natural labor and then something changed and it was an emergency c-section...i ALWAYS talk about what mom wants in that situation (since mom is usually asleep) so i make sure i get the pictures mom wants, (or video since most hospitals around here allow video) or anything like that - because once that happens, dad, or whomever is emotionally involved with mom and baby..they forget those little things that mom won't get to experience because they're too worried about that - usually if mom is asleep no one is allowed in the OR, but sometimes Dr. will allow a quick photo op or something to somebody other than an emotional family member. or a doula can often find a nurse who isn't going to be sterile and the nurse can take pictures of the baby before its all cleaned up, etc.

that's just a small part of what a doula can do its really the best job ever
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this really sounds like a perfect scenario in which you would really want a doula! doulas are taught labor coping technique, we are taught how to assess (with the family and provider) the risks/benefits of each intervention, the biggest thing I do is physical support because usually a SO provides the emotional support - many mommas like to lean against their SO and then they have me to rub their back, or squeeze their hips, or anything else they might want and then dad never has to leave - or if dad needs a break, mom isnt alone. sometimes Dr like to try to sneak in and pull the "your child is in danger" card when it's not necessarily true, but moms are easy targets when they're laboring alone - even just if dad went to get a drink, or go to the bathroom or get a snack...and ive had many moms go in planning on a natural labor and then something changed and it was an emergency c-section...i ALWAYS talk about what mom wants in that situation (since mom is usually asleep) so i make sure i get the pictures mom wants, (or video since most hospitals around here allow video) or anything like that - because once that happens, dad, or whomever is emotionally involved with mom and baby..they forget those little things that mom won't get to experience because they're too worried about that - usually if mom is asleep no one is allowed in the OR, but sometimes Dr. will allow a quick photo op or something to somebody other than an emotional family member. or a doula can often find a nurse who isn't going to be sterile and the nurse can take pictures of the baby before its all cleaned up, etc.

that's just a small part of what a doula can do its really the best job ever
I think it could be beneficial since it is very likely my mom will not be here for the birth so I'll only have my hubby. It kind of makes sense to have a doula to help out as well. My doctor has one that she has worked with before and is getting me her name. I think it will be helpful to have someone who my doctor is familiar with too so she isn't apprehensive. thanks for the advice
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I need help finding one. Can you PM me?
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