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Previously I was a sahm so working while pregnant is new to me. Originally I was hoping to work until I gave birth, but now that just doesn't seem realistic. Outside of pregnancy complications when do people normally take leave? When do you plan to take leave?
I am taking 12 weeks of non-paid FMLA. I am hoping to work until labor so I can have all my time after the babies are here. However - I am starting to feel miserable a good part of each day and wish I could quit or take off now.
I am grateful to have a good job though...
Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
In previous pregnancies, my leave was around the week before I gave birth - per the doctors request, except for the one I had PTL with starting at 26 weeks & this one at 16 weeks. If you are uncertain when to start leave, you can ask your OB when they suggest it.
~ Proud parents of 7 & happily expecting!! ~
My due date is Dec. 6 so I figure I won't come back after Thanksgiving--that gives me about a week. My schedule is easy-2 days downtown, 2 days at home so it should be fine. I'll get 6 weeks paid (using vacation/sick time and what we call "leave bank" where you donate each year and then get to draw), and then 6 weeks unpaid.
Of everyone who is taking unpaid leave are you unable to use short term disability? HR told me my short-term disability will kick in once I have the baby for 6 weeks (vaginal delivery...8 weeks if I have a c section) unless the dr extends it. If I go on bed rest at any point it would be from that time and turn to long term disability if I'm out past 12 weeks.
Oh ok. My employer pays the premiums for us so everyone here has it, but I know not all employers do that. The amount of pay goes by how long you have been with the company. I qualify for 75% right now, but I make 2 years Dec 12 and then I qualify for full pay. Not sure if my coverage starts before Dec 12 if it will remain at 75% or go up after the 12th.
Years ago when I worked outside the home I stayed until I went into labor. I returned after seven weeks.
More people fail from a lack of encouragement than anything else!~ Mrs. James Hendry
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I also have short and long term disability that will pay me at 100% for up to 6 months as long as I'm taken out for medical reasons, ie. bedrest . FMLA, however, only holds my job for 12 weeks. It really doesn't make much sense but it is what it is. I hope to work until the week of Thanksgiving and not come back after. My C-section will be the Monday after Thanksgiving so really, I'll be working right up until delivery. I wish I had more time off but I can't leave my job with no one to do it!!
I've been at home on bed rest for a month now and it is driving me CRAZY! However, if I were able to be up and about I wouldn't mind it as much...I always wanted to be a stay at home housewife and now I would LOVE to become a stay at home mom. We really need both incomes though
I am thinking I'll get released to work from home starting in Sept, which by then I'll have used 6 weeks of my FMLA and I've been on STD at 60% pay. I'll get more STD pay during maternity leave but now I'll have less FMLA time left. Not sure what will happen in the end. We're praying for a miracle and maybe I can stay home. Oh, in TN I think we get an extra 4 weeks leave on top of FMLA so technically I think I can still be out for 10 weeks with the baby if I work until I deliver.
Lura Grace, our gift from God...
Born Tuesday December 3rd, 2013 at 3:11pm
8 lbs 7 oz, 21 inches long
With DD I worked until 2 days before she was born. I had originally planned to work until my EDD but was feeling off the day before so I called in sick then got induced the next day. I take the 12 wks FMLA and use PTO days until my short term disability kicks in so I end up getting paid for 8 of the 12 weeks. Unless I'm told by my OB to leave work early I would rather work until the very end so that I have more time off after the baby is born. I feel like if I took a lot of time off before the baby is born it would be a waste.
I'm dropping to part-time at 36 weeks and will continue to work until I give birth. I have a deal with my employer that so long as I work in some capacity (office or home), i will get paid my full time salary since i don't get FMLA or STD.
It also helps in an emergency i work across from a hospital and my hospital is a 5-7 minute drive at most from work.
With my first, I had to stop working at 33 weeks due to PTL.
Samantha (30) (Hashimoto's)
DH: Joseph (33) (Oligoasthenoteratospermia)
DS1: Johnathan "J.J" (4.5)
DS2: Lucas "Luca"
IVF #1: October 2008
July 22, 2009: Johnathan Jarrett is born! 10:41 am, 7lbs, 12oz, 21.5 inches
FET #2: March 2013 (Medicated cycle)
November 25, 2013: Lucas Ryan is born! 8:46 pm, 8lbs, 8oz, 20 inches (No epidural!)
Everything I do will be unpaid. January-May is my final semester of my Masters and my final internship semester. I will have to do internship at least 1-2 days per week starting the end of January. I work as a chemical dependency therapist currently but I won't go back to that part of my job once Tobias is born until he is at least 6 months.
As far as when....
I start internship next week and I will go until 2nd week in November unless something else happens and I have to stop because of medical reasons.
I am a SAHM/WAHM mom now (run a website), so there is no leave for me. But in past pregnancies I did work. With my first, I worked up until the day I had my son. I was scheduled off on the day I had my last appointment, at which I found out my BP was sky high and they wanted to induce. I took 7 weeks leave (FMLA), and between vacation time and short term disability I had about 6 weeks of that paid. With my second, my new boss was being such an a-hole that I walked out of work at lunch time one day, told my co-workers I was starting leave early, and high-tailed it out of there. I had my daughter about a week later. It was actually nice to have a little down time before her birth. I took the full 12 weeks leave with her, and only got STD for 6 weeks (which was only like $100 a week -- super crappy)...so it was pretty much not paid, not even 1/8 of my salary.
Last edited by JulieMc; August 21st, 2013 at 10:14 PM.
this will be my first time being a working mom. i start my new job as a nurse on monday, its an easy job and im only working 2 shifts a week, but ill work up until i have the baby, barring any issues - and im taking 10w after he's born. i wont have any FMLA, or i would take 12 but they were good with 10 itll be a real change to leave a baby behind...but we desperately want to buy a boat, and my husband (being the farmer he is) is a pay cash for anything kind of dude, and wants to buy a $25k boat next summer...so i have to help with that
December 9, 2013
5:20PM 8lb3oz 20.5"
Hospital water birth
My last day in the Army is Oct 11th. I'll be trying out the whole stay at home mommy thing for a year or so and finish school. My husband is staying in the Army so we just decided it wasn't worth us both being in and not being around for important milestones during Raiden's first year
I own my own business and teach grad courses online from home, so I never take off... Pay is great, I can still manage all my duties through the groggy times and I work in spurts through the day, so it's all good. I actually feel quite fortunate to be able to do this!
__________________ Gwynne, celebrating the newest of our four precious miracles Hat's off to Vicki for my cute siggy, thank you!