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August 25th, 2013, 01:20 PM
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I am deadset on the name Lilah (or maybe spelled Lyla) for my daughter.

Now, my husband was an uncooperative azz when talking about names for our son, too. We ended up waiting until after he was born before he would even seriously discuss it. We named him Nicholas. BUT he turned Nicholas down before he was born, along with every other flippin name in the book. So I told him we would just spare ourselves the trouble and agree to pick a name after baby girl is born.

Little does he know I already picked THE name... I've casually suggested it with other names, just to test the waters, and of course he turned it down. I haven't told anyone else either. Do you think I should just keep it to myself until after she's born, when all the warm fuzzies of justing having a baby are in the air?
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August 25th, 2013, 01:30 PM
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I"m in the same boat DH and I went round and round last time and it was frustrating and made me so So, this time, I pretty much have 3 names in mind that I keep coming back to and I haven't mentioned them to him (mentioned 1 and he shot it down, but I'm relentless). I just figure as I get later in pregnancy, we'll talk about it.

I'd say sit on it for a while. I'm going to tell him the names and also tell him he can't respond to them AT ALL for at least 2 weeks, after he pictures baby girl with those names and thinks about it like I have. Maybe you could do the same... no response permitted until he really sits on it and pictures it on your little girl!
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August 25th, 2013, 01:43 PM
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I've been sitting on this name for a couple of months now. I'm pretty sure. Either Lilah, Lyla, or Meadow. And I know he'd never let me choose Meadow, haha! I think the only way he's going to ever picture a name for her is when he meets her. Whenever possible, he does EVERTHING last minute

I hope the technique works for you, though! It's kinda funny how we have to trick them into getting our way
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August 25th, 2013, 01:49 PM
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If I had a name I was dead set on I'd bully him into it. Unfortunately, I haven't got one I really love, and neither does he, so Rolo may just be Rolo for forever.

If not talking about it until birth is what works for you then go for it! lol
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August 25th, 2013, 03:03 PM
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Luckily we have a name we both love, so I can't help ya there. I just wanted to tell you that Lyla/Lilah is a beautiful name & I hope get your way when hes weak
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August 25th, 2013, 03:30 PM
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I could never wait that long....but.....you know your husband best and if that's what it takes to get him to even discuss it, let alone agree to anything..then ya, wait til then. I think we women have a bit more of an edge post-birth and they're more likely to give in then.

Also...I <3 the name. I have a daughter named Lyla....we chose the "y" spelling not to be weird, but because there's a song by our favorite band (Oasis) named that - Lyla. Lyla loves the song too.
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August 25th, 2013, 05:45 PM
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It IS really hard to wait. I'm the opposite of my husband. I like to plan things out! But I also love the idea of waiting so that I don't have to talk about names with the rest of our families... They drive me insane with the name suggestions lol

I adore the name. I love that it's so feminine.
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August 25th, 2013, 10:14 PM
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Suggest awful names that you know he will hate, and work up to the names you love
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August 25th, 2013, 10:17 PM
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Suggest awful names that you know he will hate, and work up to the names you love
Haha I was pushing Lavender and he HATED it! I should try that with other names I know he won't like
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August 25th, 2013, 11:11 PM
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There's a girl on a show we watch named celery...just sayin
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August 26th, 2013, 12:33 AM
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I was going to suggest what Chica said. Pretend you're dead set on a name you KNOW he'll hate till the very end. Then when you suggest the name you really want, he'll be so happy and immediately agree! Haha!
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August 26th, 2013, 04:57 AM
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I think you are right to keep it a secret for now. Whatever psychological block he has about picking a name already won't be overcome by arguing about it or by suggesting names, so just drop it for now and then strike when the time is right!

Although, I will mention, I don't call the baby by his name yet. It just seems weird to me to call him his name before he is born. Maybe something like that is going on?
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August 26th, 2013, 05:19 AM
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I don't know how we got through names so early this pregnancy~it was NOT an easy feat in the past! I already shared how I wanted a Molly, but my darling just muttered, "How many little black kids do you know named Molly?" :/

Then I wanted a Delilah (so I LOVE Lilah!) after my late MIL, my very favorite woman in the whole, wide world! But the family asked me not to, because of Delilah in the Bible. :/ I wouldn't be naming my child Delilah after a Biblical figure, but after the most virtuous woman I've ever known! But even they wouldn't call MIL by her name and took to saying "Delight" instead. I just wasn't strong enough to do it and live through that with my child.

Wisdom does come with age and experience~I wish I had kept it all to myself and done what I had wanted! LOL!
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August 26th, 2013, 09:04 AM
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I think Lyla/Lilah is a beautiful name. I don't think I would suggest off the wall names, I would just keep it quiet until the end. Once you're at the end he may be more willing to accept the name you love. I'm not one to call my in utero babies by their chosen names, I just call them "baby" until they're born so waiting until the end is fine with me (as long as I have an idea about a name I love that is).

My husband is also a bit frustrating with names. He won't suggest any but will hmm and haw about names I suggest. He thinks it's entirely too early to worry about names right now so he says I'm obsessing. I'm not, I just would like to get a few options so that when she is born I'm not scrambling to find one. I did that with DS2 and ended up naming him a name I didn't love at the time.
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August 26th, 2013, 11:48 AM
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Although, I will mention, I don't call the baby by his name yet. It just seems weird to me to call him his name before he is born. Maybe something like that is going on?
I'm so glad some of y'all feel that way, too. Even after we named my son, I swear I still called him "baby" for 2 weeks. I really had to let his name soak in. Of course, I love it now.

Y'all are making me love the name Lilah even more! I'm gonna be so pissed if he doesn't agree even after she's born lol!
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August 26th, 2013, 01:09 PM
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I really like it too!!!

I do call my baby by his name in utero, I did with my daughter as well. I don't see a problem with it.
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August 26th, 2013, 02:01 PM
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I really like it too!!!

I do call my baby by his name in utero, I did with my daughter as well. I don't see a problem with it.
I'd love to name her beforehand, just so the name has time to sink in before she arrives. It was weird naming my son a week after he was born. Cause even after it was final, I was silently freaking out inside thinking we made the wrong choice lol
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August 26th, 2013, 02:08 PM
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I love the name Lyla! I would definitely wait a little while until the pressure is really on. DH and I have kind of put the name debate on hold for the moment, although I think I already have their names picked out. I'm hoping he'll just let me decide. He doesn't like the names I like, but has no suggestions of his own. Good luck to you!
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August 27th, 2013, 11:07 PM
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I started throwing names at my husband and he was like "Just give me a list and let me mull them over some". I think it's because he realizes that Jocelyn was the one I knew I wanted and he shot down every name until she was born, then gave in. It totally suits her and she's totally a Josie! So, I think this time he's giving more time to considering them rather than shooting them down immediately.

He has a really bad habit of associating every name with either a person he knows or a movie character. He still won't let me use Naomi because in the movie Van Wilder they point out that it spells out "I moan" backwards. Drives me bonkers.
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August 28th, 2013, 07:12 AM
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I love it, and I agree it is easier to have a name in mind before they arrive. I feel like I've connected more with my LO knowing her name
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