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January 2nd, 2014, 08:17 AM
Mega Super Mommy
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So I definitely feel pregnant, and am super excited for baby, feel baby move everyday... but I am still worried. So many things can happen from now to 40weeks... cord issues, placental abruption or something just going wrong in general.
So I just cant relax. I think "Oh, Im so excited, we are having another baby", then the immediate after thought is, baby isnt in your arms yet... its kind of a downer, but I try to ignore it. Does anyone else feel the same???

Another thing thats always on my mind is DF somehow dying in a tragic accident. I think it has GOT to be hormones, because Ive only really been this way since this pregnancy. Even when I am with him, I just cherish the moments and tell him every day how much I love him and to drive safe and to come home safely to us, even start crying when Im eith him and think about it! Of course he smiles and cuddles me and says that its just hormones (but he words it much nicer) and that everything will be okay. Lol. Are any of you ladies worried/slightly paranoid about any of this? I just cannot help it...
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January 2nd, 2014, 08:27 AM
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Yep! Even though it feels good to be out of the first trimester, I still worry about the baby. i think it's totally normal.

I also worry about my husband more than ever. I'm chalking it up as hormones.

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January 2nd, 2014, 08:34 AM
Demetria's Avatar Baby Mia 11-12 1lb 6oz <3
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I worry everyday! Especially on days where I don't feel any or much movement (I have an anterior placenta…but there would be some days where I would feel movement everyday) I will worry until after he is here. Then, I will have a new set of worries to deal with.

I just try and take one day at a time and continue to talk myself off of the ledge. I have not gotten a doppler yet because I feel like I would be using the thing every second of every day.

Can I just say that I am super nervous about my anatomy scan tomorrow. I am happy that its early in the AM so that I won't have to deal with anxiety about it all day up until the appointment!

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January 2nd, 2014, 08:46 AM
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Yup. I am just praying that this baby arrives safe and sound because I really don't want to have to explain how or why the universe can be so cruel to a 5 or 6 year old who is SO openly excited to be a big brother. He has no clue that I had the m/c in March. As far as he knew, dad was out of town the same week that my belly really hurt and Grandma Next Door carried a laundry bucket of clothing over and slept at our house. To him, it was a sleep over and he got to sleep in dad's spot in our bed and Grandma watched tv with us every night. Life is good.

I really didn't want to tell DS until about April. I'm not a small person. I'm embarrassed to say that I was 290 when I got pregnant this 3rd time. With DS I was 240 when I got pregnant (after losing 40 lbs) and I didn't have a "cute belly" or ANY obvious baby bell until I was 7months along. As far as my figure looks right now, I think it just looks like I haven't set down the bag of oreos in a few weeks... I figured April was a good chunk of the pregnancy behind us and plenty of time to still anticipate the baby, but DH wanted to tell everyone at Xmas anyway. I honestly figured that it would make a lot more sense to DS that there was a baby in there if he could knock on the belly and someone inside could knock back. But I accommodated DH's holiday plans, and now I have this terrible anxiety at times that something bad will happen and I find that prayers for peace and calm have been very helpful in taking that anxiety away. Especially at night when I am having trouble sleeping.

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January 2nd, 2014, 09:14 AM
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Originally Posted by Demetria View Post
I just try and take one day at a time and continue to talk myself off of the ledge. I have not gotten a doppler yet because I feel like I would be using the thing every second of every day.
Yep, this is why I haven't gotten a doppler. And because I know if I couldn't find the hb right away, I'd be running to the doctor.
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January 2nd, 2014, 09:19 AM
mrsdaiwa24's Avatar Amy, soon-to-be-mama of 2
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I will be uber-paranoid until we reach viability at 24 weeks when the anxiety will be taken down a bit. I'll start to relax a bit more around 30 weeks. I also start to feel a bit better once baby gets to the point of kicking on a regular basis -- the kick counts help to keep me sane as well as the doppler.

One of my huge worries last time was complications during delivery. With the scheduled c-section, I feel a bit better about fewer complications with the baby.

This time around, I'm not so paranoid about something happening to DH, but rather, something happening to me --- I get myself so worked up about something happening to me and leaving DH alone to take care of two small children.
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January 2nd, 2014, 11:05 AM
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All the time

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January 2nd, 2014, 01:33 PM
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YES. I had been okay but was spotting brown this morning. I had sex last night and I called my OB and she said the spotting was probably from that, which I already knew.

I forgot I had my doppler with me from over the holiday, so I made sure no one was looking and used it real quick. Found the baby's heartbeat immediately and it was pumping strong at 146 so I'm hoping that calms my nerves until, you know, dinner time.

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January 2nd, 2014, 01:59 PM
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I'm still worried. I won't really calm down until about 28 weeks. I have a Doppler which does help.

I'm the one worried about dying and leaving DH with the kids. He adopted them so they are his now also but I'm afraid if I die my exH will take him court and try to take the kids away. It wouldn't happen but it's a fear I have when I have a hard time falling asleep.
Mom to 4 girls - age 11 (1/05), 9 year old twins (1/07), 21 months (7/14) and baby BOY is due May 26, 2016.

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January 2nd, 2014, 04:18 PM
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Me to! I have PTSS and constantly worry! But every day I think I have cancer too! I worry about the upcoming sono to make sure baby is healthy and growning good!

Hugs to us all!!

Mom of two TEENAGE girls, 16 and 13.
Triple Negative Breast Cancer Survivor
DX date Nov 20, 2009
Chemo date Jan. 11, 2010
Bilateral mast. March 16, 2010
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I just might be to old for this!
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January 2nd, 2014, 04:47 PM
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I worry constantly. Besides the fact that we're still waiting on some additional genetic test results, and the perinatal specialist wants to do an echocardiogram at 20 weeks to check for heart defects - there are also the standard worries that everyone has.

I wasn't freaking out too bad worrying about DH, UNTIL he randomly said one day, "Btw, if anything happens to me before William is born, you need to remember to watch for the things that run in my family - chronic ear infections and hernias after birth" Well that made my day, not.
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January 2nd, 2014, 06:01 PM
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I work in labor and delivery so I sadly see a lot of heartbreaking things. I worry all the time because I see it happen in real life. But there really is nothing you can do. If it happens, it happens. 99% of the time the mom couldn't of prevented it.

Try to enjoy your pregnancy! For instance we had 289 babies born last month and only 2 still births. Those are super good odds! Some months we don't have any! It really is so rare.

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January 2nd, 2014, 07:11 PM
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A neighbor of mine just lost her baby(on NYE)...she was 19 weeks.....so sad. I have another friend that the baby had a cord accident the night before her scheduled c/s - that is one I will NEVER FORGET!!! I don't ever stop worrying!!
LillyAnna 10.26.02
William 11.06.03
Ethan 7.3.08
Liam Ryan 2.17.12
Rowan Oliver 6.19.14
Lilah Mae Grace scheduled c/s 09.28.16 (Oct 19th)
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January 2nd, 2014, 07:25 PM
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Constantly worried. I had a realistic, awful, nightmare about 2 months before we got pregnant. It makes me terrified about this baby. Totally terrified. I wonder if I should talk about it with my midwife.

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January 2nd, 2014, 07:37 PM
Halloween81's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I'm always going to worry but I do feel a lot less worried now. I've had too many losses not to worry.
Kimberly, wife to Jamie
Miscarriage at 10 weeks - February 14, 2009
Miscarriage of twin boys at 11 weeks - September 21, 2009
Chemical pregnancy - January 9, 2010
Miscarriage at 10 weeks - April 21, 2010
Miscarriage at 7 weeks - October 22, 2010
Miscarriage at 10 weeks - May 14, 2011
Miscarriage at 17 weeks - December 7, 2011 (My sweet little Joshua had Achondrogenesis type 2)
Miscarriage at 5 weeks - June 5, 2013

All test results normal. Reason for RPL unknown.

Annabel born healthy at 35 weeks - May 22, 2014
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January 3rd, 2014, 03:56 AM
AllyTales's Avatar Super Mommy
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Sometimes I worry, because I've had things happen to friends that were pretty devastating in pregnancies. One of my very close friends gave birth this past May to a 19 week old daughter (after her heart stopped from many things that were wrong with her- this all said, they had known since week 13 that things weren't right, so they had warning). But stuff like that can happen. I try not to dwell on it, though. Right NOW everything is ok with my little girl. I focus on that. I was more worried in the first trimester- before I heard her heart, saw her on ultrasound, etc. In the first 12 weeks. But I'm way more relaxed now. I know the risk of miscarriage drops so much, so I try and remember that.

I want to enjoy my pregnancy, I've had a really really good one so far. So I just focus on it.

I do worry more about my husband and his safety a bit more now? He's a police officer, and I've never really worried about that before. Now when he leaves the house, all I can think of is high speed chases, drugs, guns.. and I get nervous that something will happen to him before he even sees his daughter. Since I've never really been scared of his job, I just chalk that up to hormones? Or maybe I've just turned into a nervous person since pregnancy! lol

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January 3rd, 2014, 05:27 AM
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Terrified. All the time. Baby#2 and I'm still scared like it's baby number 1

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January 4th, 2014, 11:03 AM
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Yes, especially since I've been having to deal with spotting a couple times a week. I am really nervous when I go to the Dr. on the 13th that there will be no heartbeat.
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January 5th, 2014, 05:38 PM
dee.76's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I have always worried so much when I am pregnant.. I have had 4 perfect baby boys... 3 m/c's prior to that.. my last loss was about 14 years ago but it never ever leaves you.. the worry... Mind you, I worry about my kids now also.. so I think I am just a natural worrywort..

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January 5th, 2014, 11:50 PM
HailandNevansmom's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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awww yes I feel the same way esp because ur right... things to happen. I was just thinking of that before I camm on and read about demi... thn I coudnt help but cry . I worried through my entire pregnancy with nevan , and now hes alm 5 in may, and I did all that worrying for nothing, so I seem to be doing better and a lot more positive this time around, but def still worry.
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