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April 9th, 2014, 02:50 PM
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My kids are 10 and 8 years old. We've asked them the hypothetical question before "how would you feel if you had a little brother or sister?". The answers have pretty much been on the negative. They are more preoccupied with having to help change stinky diapers than anything else. That's probably our fault for joking about them needing to do it. But anyway....

I know having a little brother or sister is something they never thought would ever really happen. Probably because we have said to many people that we were done having babies. I guess we were wrong!

I want to come up with a fun way to break the news to them. I have thought of giving them each a gift and inside would be diapers and baby wipes with a card that says "tools for your new job as big sister". Lol! But we don't want it to be negative. It would still be funny tho.

Anybody ever had to break the news to your older kids? How did you do it and how did it go?
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April 9th, 2014, 03:00 PM
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With Ryan now 19 months. We waited to tell the kids until I was closer to 20 weeks and found out what it was ie boy or girl. We didn't want to tell them too soon because my hubby and I felt it best for our children not to have to deal with a loss so young. AND children have NO sense of time - 10 months is a LONG wait. When we told them. My oldest at them time just asked 'where is he going to sleep?' My middle said we had to call him LEO. And my daughter cried- she was very upset having been the 'baby' for 7 years. We had toyed around telling them before that and joked about it. My eldest said "if you have another one I'm outa here!" LOLThis time we joke about it and they seem more open because they all LOVE Ryan so much. I am very blessed they are a bit older. For me it makes it easier.
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April 9th, 2014, 03:26 PM
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We just sit them down and my husband usually says "guess what, your mom is pregnant" and he does NOT keep a secret at all so he tells them right away. Our kids have always been excited and happy.
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April 9th, 2014, 03:40 PM
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We just told our DS last week. We were just reassuring and made sure that he knew he didn't have to change any diapers or wake up in the middle of the night, which were his fears. LOL

I like the idea of making 'big sibling kits' though!
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April 9th, 2014, 04:17 PM
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I went all out with my 5 year old. Haha!! He has reeeeeeeally wanted another baby brother or sister for a long time now. I just couldn't contain myself any longer! After the ultrasound last week I went out & bought a ton of blue & pink balloons and put them all up so he saw them the moment he walked in the door after school. I also put up a huge sign that said "We're having a BABY!" He was SO excited!! He was like "this is GREAT! It's like a birthday party!" LOL
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April 9th, 2014, 05:09 PM
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My son is 12 so we didnt want to do any of the cute stuff. We bought him a card that said believing and praying changes things or something like that and on the inside it said congratulations God heard your prayers for a a little brother or sister. Once it sank in he pulled his little baseball cap down lower and started wiping his eyes. He had been praying with us for a baby. So it was an emotional moment for all of us.
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April 9th, 2014, 05:18 PM
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My husband yells out family meeting and they all come running and the oldest says "mom must be pregnant again."
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April 9th, 2014, 05:52 PM
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I'm not telling my kids till I tell my family, 12 weeks. But my DD pretty much knows bc she has to go to my apps and ultrasounds LOL. She was happy and mommy I saw your baby on the screen. I had to tell a white lie so she wouldn't blab and I said mommys just sick. No baby. But she's way too smart, she knows. But my kids will be elated with a baby brother or sister I'm not sure how I will spill it, probably show them my ultrasound and tell them there's a baby in mommys tummy.

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My son is 12 so we didnt want to do any of the cute stuff. We bought him a card that said believing and praying changes things or something like that and on the inside it said congratulations God heard your prayers for a a little brother or sister. Once it sank in he pulled his little baseball cap down lower and started wiping his eyes. He had been praying with us for a baby. So it was an emotional moment for all of us.
Now that made me tear up. Beautiful.
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April 9th, 2014, 05:57 PM
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These are pretty smart ideas, I haven't told my 6 year old yet. I think I'll wait until I'm further along so I can tell her the sex too. I think she will be happy, atleast I hope. Lol I cried when my parents told me about my younger brother, I really hope my kids aren't like me rofl
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April 9th, 2014, 06:27 PM
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When we tell our kids about this baby, we will know the gender already. But I think. I rather let the suspense go on a couple weeks so they have a chance to enjoy the suspense and thinking of the pros and cons of each gender.
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April 9th, 2014, 06:34 PM
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We told the kids last week b/c our oldest, 8yo, was really worried about me being sick all the time.

Our kids are very excited. But they LOVE babies and have been asking for another one for about a year LOL

The idea of a big brother/big sister kit is cute. Maybe you could focus on the kids favorite things, IDK like skateboarding, and get them a regular sized skateboard shirt for them and a smaller size for the baby and say it is so the older sibling can teach their sib all about being cool like them...or something that gives them a positive fun responsibility since they have already shown worry about diaper changing and typical baby stuff.
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April 9th, 2014, 06:46 PM
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We told DS (9) the night we found out. I had planned on waiting a bit but my DH was already calling his parents and telling them the news that I thought we should tell him. He's been praying for a sibling for years!! Although we had not been trying until January, we were always waiting for "the perfect time" to have another haha.. Time flew bye!

When we told him he said "I don't believe you" he was shocked, but so happy!!!
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April 9th, 2014, 07:43 PM
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I told my kiddos about 2 weeks ago. But they already knew and asked me a few different ways, to which I just side stepped so I wouldn't have to answer or lie. But we never do big announcements. Just say mommy's pregnant again and they run around the house hooping and hollering. They are super excited for another baby.
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April 10th, 2014, 02:17 AM
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LOL That would be funny!! With DS1 we bought the big brother book (we was only 3 though) and a baby brother doll and we made sure he knew his job was to be a big brother, not a little Daddy. We let him know if he wanted to help with things that was okay, but it wasn't his job too.This time I'm not sure. I really want to do a gender reveal with the kids with the balloons in the box. Tell them a few days before we go for the ultrasound, so they could get used to the idea then let them know the gender. I'm a little afraid of negativity from DS1 since a week or so ago he came up to me and said he didn't want his little brother to come along when I was PG with him. That of course is a LIE! lol he was stoked!
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April 10th, 2014, 07:57 AM
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We told our daughter the day after we found out. She is 6 and is very excited, she is hoping for a little sister. My (almost)2 year old would have no idea what I'm talking about so...
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