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So....looks like I'm getting married in 4-6 weeks. Turns out we have to for the visa. Not that we don't want to get married, just we wanted to do it "right." So we may just keep it a secret and do an actual wedding later. But it is what it is and we're gonna roll with it!
So that brings me to my question. I'd like to buy a nice dress for the event. But what kind to buy? Regular or maternity? I found a really nice place here for maternity wedding dresses but I'd have to order NOW. And will I even need a "maternity dress" by then? I'll be about 21-23 weeks. I feel like yes, I will need something other than a regular dress. But I'm afraid if I go full on maternity, it will be too big. What would you ladies do?
Personally, I wouldn't order anything in advance, because it probably wouldn't fit me the day of. My body seems to be changing rapidly week by week! I would go dress shopping that week. Maybe go in advance to scope things out, but buy the actual dress close to the date. You might order something online and by the time the date is here, it's too big or too small.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! I'm not sure what I would do...I understand where you're coming from thinking about ordering ahead of time for an actual maternity wedding dress, but I think I'm with SarahAbram84 and would probably wait until the week of a and go out and go shopping. Even if you end up with a nontraditional gown you could always wear it again throughout your pregnancy and just get the more traditional dress later if you have a bigger ceremony. Just a thought though. Good luck on whatever you decide!
I know you girls are right. It's just that I haven't found any maternity stores here I like at all. None have really been my style, wedding or not. But I'll be close to one of the large shopping centers tomorrow after work so may go check it out. Perhaps one of the stores will catch my interest and I'll be able to see myself shopping there. I definitely don't need a traditional dress, so it doesn't need to have bridal gowns.
Does it have to be a maternity wedding dress? Can you get a non-maternity white dress that is loose at the waist?
Not sure if you are going for simple or fancy, but just to give you an idea, if you are going for simple.... I bought a simple white linen dress for $80 off the rack. I went to a seamstress and had them make me a very simple but pretty lace sash with pearls to put at the waist. Then I had my hair done nicely, make up etc.... total cost was less than $200 for the entire wedding get up including mani, pedi, hair etc. And I still have the dress!! (side note: I just tried it on a few days ago. It fits but I couldn't breathe!!!) I also liked it because, while I didn't sit down and sew the dress, I still had a lot of creativity with the dress. I had fun running around finding the right lace, finding a shawl to keep warm, etc. It wasn't a designer dress, but it was very much MINE, and so practical and frugal and just... ME.
Have you looked around dept stores, malls? I always thought some prom dresses could make great bridal dresses.
Totally depends on what kind of dress you want for yourself. I was against anything that was too bridal-princess-poofy looking, I wanted just simple, feminine, and pretty. In fact, I remember going to bridal dress rental places and crying because everything was so big and poofy lol. I was ready to not get married if it meant I had to wear one of those things. So I can relate on bridal dress stress. You want something that is YOU.
I'm not sure what I'd do but I wanted to say congrats! When I was pregnant with my son we got married and kept it a secret and we had our big wedding a year later. I was only 8 weeks so I didn't need maternity clothes and I didn't even wear a dress
Unless this is a dress that you think you are going to wear at your big wedding later then I would just get something simple. I would either get something is too big now and if you needed to you could have taken in or I would wait and get something right before so you know it would fit. If you did find a maternity dress it would most like fit now and in a few weeks. I know most of my maternity stuff will last though the entire pregnancy.
Thank you *Kiliki* for my beautiful siggy
I got married when I was 28 weeks pregnant with my daughter. I just got a regular dress just a size bigger. It was a flowy dress that wasnt tight and flowed out near the belly so even if I grew a little but it would still be fine. I got it a month before the wedding and it fit perfect. I will see if I can find a picture.
sorry if they pictures are huge. But that was my dress. It was soo comfy, and it was only $150.
Thank you so much AlexAiden Mommy for my beautiful siggy!
Last edited by mama_2_Callen; September 16th, 2013 at 11:07 AM.
Thanks girls! I had a look at some stores today and while none of the maternity ones were worth it, I did find a couple not so tight regular ones that might do the trick. At least I know what stores to look at now!
Turns out it may not be a secret after all. My SO really wants to at least tell the families. I'm kind of bummed because I know if we do I won't want a "real" wedding later. But it's not just my decision so I'm just going to suck it up and go with it. And his reasons for wanting to tell are really sweet, so I feel like such a witch saying I want to hide it. So I'm trying to focus on the fact that I'm marrying my love and not the fact that I won't get the wedding or proposal I'd dreamed of. Which makes the dress even more important as this will be the only wedding I get. I'm not getting a bridal gown, just a regular, semi-fancy white or light colored dress