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November 8th, 2013, 08:06 PM
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Just found that out thanks to google. No wonder my OB was trying to pull the vbac bait and switch thing. When he was talking about there even being an option to vbac, I kind of assumed it was allowed in the hospital, but vbac websites have the place listed as banned. You'd think that would be worth mentioning at some point in all the vbac conversations we've had. If I showed up at that hospital ready to push or close to it, it's not like they can turn me away. I'm wanting to move forward with switching. Now I just need to start researching individual OBs in the other hospital that allows vbac. On the lists I'm reading, some hospitals are listed as banned and others as de facto banned. What's the difference and what will it mean for me?

My OB did well on my csection though, I just strongly disliked it the experience. I like what he did when he closed me up. He used skin glue stuff and steri-strips, no staples or stitches, so didn't need to have anything removed which is good because I would have wigged out. I'm going to request that glue stuff if I need a csection again with whatever new OB I choose, if I can. Please tell me if this fear is unfounded, but I guess I'm afraid of making the switch only to end up with an OB who messes up my possible csection as silly as that sounds.
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November 9th, 2013, 05:39 AM
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Ugh that's horrible. Do you have any freestanding birth centers nearby? Sickens me how this country can strip us of rights like this. NO ONE is going to tell me what my vagina can or cannot do!
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November 9th, 2013, 07:18 AM
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from what iv heard Birth centers or a midwife are generally your best chances for a succesfull VBAC if going through an OB office is necisary I whould make your desires very clear and ask for the facts in no uncertain terms.

are they willing to do a Vbac
is the hospital they deliver with Vbac friendly
if its a practice that has several doctors and whoever is on call delivers are all of them willing to do a vbac
what is there succesfull Vbac rate
what is there csection rate
what conditions/occurences whould make them unwilling to do the Vbac
how whould they do the csection if it becomes necisarry

anything that whould be important to you needs to be discuses up front
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November 9th, 2013, 08:12 AM
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I understand your fear. One of the reasons I was considering staying with my ob was because of how well he did my c section. I decide that wasn't an important enough reason to stay, I'm sure the back up ob's at the hospital I'm using are just as good. Oh and my ob and everyone else I know who had c sections (who had different ob's), were closed up the same way, glue and steri strips. I think that's a common way to do it.

I think I would look for a different hospital and ob/midwife. It's scary to make a change but if it means you get to try a vbac, then it's worth it, I think. I think a midwife who does vbac's would be a better option, then tend to have a higher vbac success rate and lower c section rates. Like above, if ob is the only option, those are good questions to ask.
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November 10th, 2013, 04:28 PM
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Ugh that's horrible. Do you have any freestanding birth centers nearby? Sickens me how this country can strip us of rights like this. NO ONE is going to tell me what my vagina can or cannot do!
The nearest free standing birth center is 2.5 hours away. There are none in the only city I can feasibly deliver in, an hour from my house.

I am prepared to accept it if I am one of those people who just can't have babies naturally. I want to be given a fair shot, and I don't think this hospital will give me one. Apparently though this hospital leaves it up to their own OBs, because I just found another OB in this same practice who has at least one review where the patient says the OB is supportive of vbac, granted the review is a couple years old. You know how it is reading reviews about drs, everyone has such different experiences and expectations that really, it's best to go by your own first impressions than the reviews you read on the internet. The one vbac review she does have is very promising. I'll admit, my OB comes a little more highly rated than she is, and I think is the highest rated OB of his hospital. Just getting a second opinion doesn't mean I have to switch.

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from what iv heard Birth centers or a midwife are generally your best chances for a succesfull VBAC if going through an OB office is necisary I whould make your desires very clear and ask for the facts in no uncertain terms.

are they willing to do a Vbac
is the hospital they deliver with Vbac friendly
if its a practice that has several doctors and whoever is on call delivers are all of them willing to do a vbac
what is there succesfull Vbac rate
what is there csection rate
what conditions/occurences whould make them unwilling to do the Vbac
how whould they do the csection if it becomes necisarry

anything that whould be important to you needs to be discuses up front
I would love to have this baby in a birth center, but two big problems: 1. There are none in my area, nearest being 2.5 hours away (and it's a very good one by the looks of it). 2. DH is not onboard with a birth center like that unless it's practically attached to the hospital.

I thought I had covered this stuff with my OB, then he pulls the bait and switch though and talks about scheduling the csection at 39 weeks and talks about how dangerous he thinks it is go at all beyond that. I want to not schedule one at all or at the very least schedule it at 41 and a few days. It looks like the only option I have because he has scared DH is scheduling at 40 weeks. :/ Apparently, according to my OB, I have to make this decision tomorrow, which is my next appointment since he prefers to schedule csections during the 26 weeks check up. His stated reason for throwing this on me is because "it's easier for [him]" so he isn't in a rush to get the paper work done and all that. Yeah.. that doesn't sit well with me..

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I understand your fear. One of the reasons I was considering staying with my ob was because of how well he did my c section. I decide that wasn't an important enough reason to stay, I'm sure the back up ob's at the hospital I'm using are just as good. Oh and my ob and everyone else I know who had c sections (who had different ob's), were closed up the same way, glue and steri strips. I think that's a common way to do it.

I think I would look for a different hospital and ob/midwife. It's scary to make a change but if it means you get to try a vbac, then it's worth it, I think. I think a midwife who does vbac's would be a better option, then tend to have a higher vbac success rate and lower c section rates. Like above, if ob is the only option, those are good questions to ask.
I am afraid of switching, but I am more afraid of another surgery. Good point there. Even if it isn't routine procedure here, I will definitely request that glue and steri strips either way. That was better for me than staples/stitches.

No midwives in the area that don't have a huge long list of poor reviews. :/
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November 10th, 2013, 04:46 PM
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What? I didn't even know that was possible! If it's an option for other pregnant women, it should be an option for ALL pregnant women!
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November 10th, 2013, 06:23 PM
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Apparently, according to my OB, I have to make this decision tomorrow, which is my next appointment since he prefers to schedule csections during the 26 weeks check up. His stated reason for throwing this on me is because "it's easier for [him]" so he isn't in a rush to get the paper work done and all that. Yeah.. that doesn't sit well with me..
then tell him no...... he cant force you to have a c section in the first place, as far as I know there is absolutely nothing making it medically necessary for you, much less can he force you to scheduled it at 26 weeks. you have the right to refuse just tell him you don't consent or that your unwilling to schedule one at this time or even that you want the previously agreed upon VBAc and will not be scheduling a C section unless circumstances change..... he cant strap you down and make you sign the worst he can do is kick you out of the practice and if hes not willing to give you the birth you want and agreed upon then you dont want to be in his practice anyway.
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What? I didn't even know that was possible! If it's an option for other pregnant women, it should be an option for ALL pregnant women!
Agreed! There are times when a csection truly is the safest and best option, but csections performed because of actual emergencies only account for a few of those csections performed these days. Gotta love western medicine when it comes to a process so natural as pregnancy and birth.

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then tell him no...... he cant force you to have a c section in the first place, as far as I know there is absolutely nothing making it medically necessary for you, much less can he force you to scheduled it at 26 weeks. you have the right to refuse just tell him you don't consent or that your unwilling to schedule one at this time or even that you want the previously agreed upon VBAc and will not be scheduling a C section unless circumstances change..... he cant strap you down and make you sign the worst he can do is kick you out of the practice and if hes not willing to give you the birth you want and agreed upon then you dont want to be in his practice anyway.
I know I can refuse anything I want to refuse. My OB didn't even start preparing csection supplies and stuff until after I nodded my head yes while sobbing after 44 hours of labor and 3 hours of unproductive pushing. Having to tell my DH after refusing to schedule one this time around is a different matter entirely.. I don't know if facing that is worth it to me.
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