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My DF and I got into a big fight, I'll spare the details, but it pretty much ended in me telling him I don't trust him alone with our daughter. Now I feel terrible for saying that and I said it because I was angry. I am afraid though that if i leave him alone with her he'll fall asleep and won't hear her crying, which he did the other day while I was in the shower, or he won't change her or will just put her in her swing and turn the tv on and ignore her. I'm also afraid she'll get hungry after I leave and since I EbF he won't be able to do anything, she will not take a bottle. I just feel so upset right now that I could say such a thing to the father of my child. Our relationship has gone downhill since she was born and he just gets on my last nerve sometimes but I shouldn't have said I don't trust him with her
I'm sorry. I know w my husband, I don't trust that he'd wake up if he was sleeping and alone w the kids. He's dead to the world when he sleeps! I guess if anything, you may have worded it poorly out of anger, but I do know what you mean.
I think what you are going through is pretty normal. I remember feeling this way after our son was born - worrying that Pearce wouldn't hear the baby if he cried was my biggest fear.
Also, adapting to having children is one of the biggest changes your relationship will go through. Don't despair; things will improve if you make an effort. Things were so hard after Oz was born, I felt like my life had changed so much - I was tied completely to another person and I was really resentful that his life hadn't changed at all really. It made me angry, and annoyed and it put a lot of stress on our relationship when we were already under stress from being tired and in a new situation which we had no experience to help us with. Things got better. This time around we haven't gone through anything like that.
I guess my only advice is to be patient with each other and try to figure out why you are feeling this way. Once I realized why I was so angry with my SO it was so much easier on both of us.