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December 9th, 2011, 04:50 PM
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So this morning I get a text message from a fellow employee saying that our HR lady was discussing confidential information about me to another employee. I am currently on intermittent FMLA due to the headaches I was getting at the beginning of my second trimester. I'm allotted 6 days a month that I can miss. Well the HR lady was sitting in her office with her door wide open discussing how many days I can miss and that she thinks that I am taking advantage of the situation and that I don't need to go to the Dr. as many times as I am because I'm not sick. No s*** I'm not sick, I'm f***ing pregnant!

I just think its a tad ridiculous for her to be doing something like that. Come Monday morning, I will be reporting her and I hope something gets done about it.
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December 9th, 2011, 05:36 PM
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I agree with reporting her! You know your body best and your doctor has obviously given you the option a taking a sick day using FMLA. Its not her business to be your judge.

I am sorry you have to go through that- a violation of privacy can really hurt.
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December 9th, 2011, 05:58 PM
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She has no right to be talking about you to other employees! I would definitely mention in to your boss.
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December 9th, 2011, 05:59 PM
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Yeah, reporting her is a good idea. As an HR person she should understand the meaning "confidential information" it's nobody else's business, and she shouldn't be discussing it with other people. Or where anyone can overhear like that.

I would be pretty pissed off and frustrated too, how inappropriate!
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December 9th, 2011, 06:23 PM
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I feel that if she has a problem with me and thinks those things, then she needs to come to me as an adult and not go behind my back like that. It is so sad that a 50 something year old woman can act as though she is still in high school.
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December 9th, 2011, 06:31 PM
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wow.. human resources should no that's a big no, no!
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December 9th, 2011, 06:32 PM
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Nothing worse than gossipy HR people. I agree that you should report her.
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December 9th, 2011, 06:33 PM
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wow yes report her!
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December 9th, 2011, 06:38 PM
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Wow! I'm sorry to hear someone is acting so immature towards you Has she never been pregnant before or what? I have a coworker who is in her late 50's who complains about me to others on how I wont prep meat. I don't do it because it makes me physically ill from the smell. Gotta love sensitive preggo senses! She has had 3 kids... I would think her of all people would understand!
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December 9th, 2011, 06:41 PM
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As someone that worked in HR, that is HUGE.

There is a reason they sign a confidentiality agreement. OSHA is something you should look into if they don't do anything about it. There is a 800 anonymous info line, and every employer in the US is required to have a poster in a public/break area. Sometimes you dont' get anything done until you mention you know what OSHA is and how to contact them.
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December 9th, 2011, 06:43 PM
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Sad thing is, is that she does have kids of her own. She should know that I do in fact have to go to the dr every 4 weeks...well every other week now. Its just another things that makes me look forward to getting out of that place. March 2nd cannot come fast enough!!
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December 9th, 2011, 07:53 PM
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I would think with her having had kids before, she would understand a little bit more. Even I think going to the doctor this much is overkill, but it's very helpful on catching problems early on before they escalate. Pretty much all pregnant woman go to the doctor that often, you're not exactly unique in that sense.

You're almost done with that place at least
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December 9th, 2011, 08:06 PM
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Yes report her and if they give ya grief start saying words like OSHA and lawyer ect ect cause that is an invastion of your privacy big time. I think that lady needs a crash course in elthics nad what a confidential agreement is.

sorry that ya have to deal wtih a woman who is such a butt.....
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December 9th, 2011, 08:10 PM
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Wow, that is extremely unprofessional and you should definitely report her!
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December 9th, 2011, 10:36 PM
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Some people need to learn to keep quiet. I agree with reporting her. Gossiping in her position is not okay.
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December 10th, 2011, 04:27 PM
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Wow, that is extremely unprofessional and you should definitely report her!
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December 11th, 2011, 08:12 AM
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Wish me luck for tomorrow. In my opinion what she did is grounds for termination. How can anyone feel ok to go to her with a private matter? I know I don't trust her.
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December 11th, 2011, 08:48 AM
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I agree with you that that is grounds for termination. Her position requires absolute confidentiality. She clearly doesn't get that. Time for her to find a new job. I would definitely report her and then contact OSHA just in case they try to sweep it under the rug.
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December 11th, 2011, 09:48 AM
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Id expect at least a suspention! :O How rude!!
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