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December 11th, 2011, 11:40 AM
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One we found out that we were having a boy and a girl, we started discussing names. He suggested Seth and Serena which were both names from our "maybe" list. It's hard for us to pick names because everything I love, he hates and vice versa. Anyway, I started to picture the babies as Seth and Serena. I thought I had pretty much come around to them and we decided those would be the first names. You would think everything would be good. I can really picture our baby boy as Seth and have no qualms about the name at all. However, Serena hasn't been sitting right with me. I can only picture her as the name that I love and dh hates and refuses to budge on.
So what do I do when I feel this way? I have never had this problem with any of my other kids. I don't think there's a single thing I can do to make dh change his mind. Do I just let her be named Serena and accept that she will eventually grow into it? I don't know what else I can do. We only had one other girl name on our "maybe" list and I don't like it any more than I like Serena (the other name is Victoria). I guess I'm just looking for someone who's BTDT and what you did and how it worked out.

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December 11th, 2011, 11:48 AM
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Maybe if you absolutely can't come to a compromise, you should each name one, then each of you will have one you love and one you will learn to love

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December 11th, 2011, 12:00 PM
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Kelsey, I suggested that to dh, actually. He could name the boy whatever he wanted if I could name the girl. Knowing I would name her the name I'm in love with, he declined.
I don't dislike the name Serena. I think it sounds very pretty. Just for some reason, I can't picture our little girl with that name.

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December 11th, 2011, 12:14 PM
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We have similar trouble with names. Completely different styles! My husband likes names like Henry and Meredith. I hate them and would rather be pecked to death by parakeets than use those names. My favorites for boys are biblical (Benjamin, Caleb, etc) and for girls are literary (Harper being my top choice). He hates them. Charlotte Claire was literally the ONLY two girl names we both liked at all. Which is why this baby still has no name

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December 11th, 2011, 12:34 PM
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I wouldn't name her Serena unless/until you feel completely comfortable with it.

I would just hate to think it would give you any feeling other than joy when you say it, you know?
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December 11th, 2011, 02:01 PM
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I hated the name David, and I still am not super fond of it. Chris really wanted to name him after his best friend David, and I liked the meaning of the name. He's 3.5 and I can't picture him as anything other than David but I still am not fond of the name. I love his middle name though, Cillian (kill-ee-in), and that helps.
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December 11th, 2011, 03:00 PM
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Have u told ur DH that u just can't picture that name?? What if u promise to not use ur top pick but other than that u get to pick the name?? I hope u get it figured out. I would not name a child something I wasn't completely comfortable with.
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December 11th, 2011, 05:34 PM
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Maybe use Serena as a middle name or use it as a first and call her by her middle? Sometimes people can't decide until they're born and they just look like a ...

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December 11th, 2011, 05:45 PM
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I feel the same as you do. We are having a girl and dh insists that her name be Charli which I do like dont get me wrong but for some reason it is so hard for me to say I love that name. Every name i pick he says no to and its frustrating. I told him I gave in with our sons name which is Christian and I did learn to really love that name but for some reason I can not call her Charli when everyone else keeps. I dont know what to do either
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December 11th, 2011, 05:53 PM
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Yes, I've told dh. He's willing to consider other names but I just can't think of anything I like better anyway. I think my only option is to ask him to really reconsider my name and I guess otherwise we'll plan on going with Serena.

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December 11th, 2011, 10:41 PM
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I would just hold out until birth. Maybe when you see her she WILL be a Serena, or the perfect name will pop into your head. Keep name ideas floating around in the back of your head for now, and maybe you'll fall in love with another name before she is born.

I don't think I could name my kid something I didn't absolutely love. I think me and DF will have naming issues if we have another girl, or two boys...his suggestions always suck

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