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September 12th, 2013, 11:54 PM
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I went in today for a prenatal, and she did a pap and said my cervix looked perfect. My uterus was measuring 12 weeks and looking perfect. Went to check for heart tones and they were choppy, in and out. The mw said she wanted to use an ultrasound to hear them for more than 5 seconds because she hadn't gotten a good count and we did one on office and there was no heart beat. They referred me down to OB on the 2nd floor and they did another ultrasound, no cardiac activity.

So I went into their highest level ultrasound and they saw no cardiac activity. The baby was measuring perfect for today. So it died today, seconds before my ultrasound.

My baby is dead, my perfect looking baby is dead. We're using cytotec (spelling?) to "induce" tomorrow. Please pray it's fast. I'm so devastated. It's the worst ever.


I'm just updating, TMI and possibly trigger warning. But I always want updates from these and so I'm giving one.

It took 12 hours for the cytotec to take effect. I took black and blue cohosh at 7 pm and walked outside. After one block I felt a huge pop and a big gush. Went to the bathroom, and my pad was soaked with pink water. I didn't realize your water could break...but it did. There was one intense-ish contraction and then mild ones. I was definitely expecting more pain than I've had. Walked more and about 15 minutes later our baby was born. She was a girl, and she was perfect. We named her Mara Joy, Mara means everlasting - it also means bitter and feels very fitting. Thank you for all your prayers, we have so much peace now. The worst part was inserting the medication. I was so overwhelmed with sadness. Now that she is born, I'm feeling so much peace and we are so thankful to God for that <3
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September 13th, 2013, 01:47 AM
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Oh my gosh, Danielle. I am so so sorry for your loss.
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September 13th, 2013, 02:42 AM
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Lurking from May DDC-- I'm so sorry to hear this..
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September 13th, 2013, 04:06 AM
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Danielle, I'm so, so sorry. I can't imagine your pain right now. I'm so sorry to hear this.

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September 13th, 2013, 04:48 AM
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From Jan/Feb ddc I'm so sorry for your loss.
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September 13th, 2013, 06:00 AM
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Oh hunny, I am so sorry for your loss
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September 13th, 2013, 06:50 AM
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Oh no I am so sorry
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September 13th, 2013, 06:50 AM
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Danielle, I'm so so sorry for your loss. That it absolutely terrible. I'm heartbroken for you.
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September 13th, 2013, 06:52 AM
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Oh no no no Danielle =( I'm heartbroken for you. I can't even imagine. To go through all that and have that happen is so heartbreaking and unfair. I'm so so so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of prayers and hugs.
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September 13th, 2013, 07:20 AM
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I am so sorry!!!! Words can't even express it! Big hugs!!!
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September 13th, 2013, 07:27 AM
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I am sooo sorry :-( hugs mama
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September 13th, 2013, 07:45 AM
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Oh my god, I am so sorry Heart is breaking for you... Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family... *hugs*
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September 13th, 2013, 07:45 AM
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Oh no so sorry for this very sad news.
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September 13th, 2013, 07:46 AM
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I will be keeping you in my thoughts - I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.
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September 13th, 2013, 08:00 AM
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:'( my heart is broken for you!! I'm so terrified of that happening! My very deepest condolences!!
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September 13th, 2013, 08:02 AM
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I'm so very sorry, I wish you peace and strength.
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September 13th, 2013, 08:08 AM
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I’m sooo sorry for your loss  You are in my T&P
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September 13th, 2013, 08:36 AM
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Oh no, Danielle!! I am so sorry!! It's so hard to understand why these things happen. I am sending lots of strength your way to help you get through this terrible time. ((((HUGS)))))
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September 13th, 2013, 08:40 AM
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I'm so very sorry That's horrible :hugs:
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September 13th, 2013, 09:09 AM
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Oh, no. I am SO, SO sorry to hear this. I went through a similar experience last fall, at 9 weeks. I don't know you but I wish I could be there to hug you and cry with you.

I just hate seeing it when someone has to leave a DDC. I wish no one had to miscarry and all our beans were sticky & healthy.
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