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My wife and I came up with our guest list for our baby shower and it's at 120 ppl.
83 of them are just family, which I find to be ludacris! 28 of the 120 are kids, but still! It's like our wedding all over again!
The number is so high, in part, because we're doing a "Jack and Jill" shower and having men and women. My wife is the athletic, men's clothes wearing type so there's NO way she could stand a typical baby shower with a bunch of women "ooohing and ahhhing" over cute baby stuff.
We're not supposed to be involved in any of the planning but I am REALLLLY opposed to a fire hall rental scenario. I guess I'm just bratty We took it upon ourselves to look into renting out a room at a local restaurant like she surprised me with for our Bridal Shower, but even at $17-$20 a head, you're looking at thousands of dollars.
Sooooo thankfully my sister just moved into a big beautiful house with an inground pool that she has so generously offered to let us use for the shower It will be too cold for swimming but it'll still be nice to look at. We figured this will be the ideal way to have as many guests as we want without breaking the bank. Plus it will be more casual this way with homemade food which is much more my wife's style (and my sister is a fantastic cook).
Has anyone else been told they're not allow to know anything about the shower but you just can't help but interject yourself?! Please tell me I'm not the only one
With my other showers I didn't do anything besides the guest list, and at 2 of them I didn't even do that (one was a PTA shower they did for me and the other was a work shower).
But yikes, 120 ppl, I would be so overwhelmed. Do you have a date picked out?
My MIL took the reins of all the planning without asking us who we wanted to plan everything, essentially so she could say, "Look what I did" or "I did that all by myself, no one even bothered to help me" when in reality she never asked anyone for help. So to try to have both my taste and my wife's incorporated in the day, I've recruited my Aunt and sister to help her with the planning. Now I *hopefully* won't have to worry about anything.
As for the amt of ppl, my Dad is 1 of 7 kids, Mom is 1 of 8, MIL is 1 of 5, FIL is 1 of 7 and StepFIL is 1 of 4, wife is 1 of 5 and I'm 1 of 4. Our families don't really know how to do small :/ Every family event has a ton of ppl no matter which side we're celebrating with. And when we need to combine all sides for something like this...forget it. Guaranteed a guest list of 100ppl or more. While it's nice to know Max is coming into the world with plenty of love to go around, it's a bit overwhelming and stressful at times, to say the least!
Boos Moo-- no date picked out as of yet. Her tenative last day of work is April 1st. Her days off are Wednesday and Thursday so we're hoping we can wait until she's on maternity leave so she doesn't have to take off for a Sunday shower. She's a correction officer at one of our state prisons and they do not issue maternity bullet/shank proof vests (which is absolutely ridiculous) so depending on how big she gets and when, she may have to go out earlier...we'll see.
Wow....120 people seems a bit over the top imo, especially for a second child. We have a large family as well but baby shower's we reserve for women only that way it stays somewhat calm and organised. I can't imagine having husbands and children involved but that's just me. Good luck...hope it turns out well!
We have about 50 or so ppl on our list but like yours it's a couples shower. That does not include kids! No co-workers or family. Not sure what we are doing there. I am not allowed to know anything either. My SIL wants it to be a complete surprise. I thought wow that's a lot of ppl but I figure only about 1/2 will come. It's in feb (Brrr!)bc I have to deliver in mid March. So thank goodness only 1/2 will come and they have a room for entertaining!
I know customarily showers are not done for 2nd children, but this is my wife's first (and will be the only) pregnancy. I had the experience of all the frills that come with having your first born (almost 8 years ago), so I would never deny her of that. Frankly, no one ever in a million years expected her to EVER carry a baby. So esp in her family, this is a HUGE deal.
And yeah...this guest list is pretty much our wedding guest list, minus the kids. We had an adult-only reception. I think we're going to break up the gift opening throughout the day so it's not just one arduous task. I'm not keen on multiple showers, but that's just me for our situation. One and done for us!
My guess is that we invite the 120 and maybe 70-80 actually show. For some reason, all of the baby showers we go to are 50+ ppl. They're a pretty big deal around here I guess. Even the Sprinkles are big for goodness sake! Thankfully, we have excellent planners and hopefully everything runs as smooth as possible. We have enough to worry and stress about!