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Anyone else getting pressured by family for your LO's name?
DH and I are almost set on a name. #1 is a name I like plus my mother's mother's name. Name 2 is MIL's middle name plus my maternal step grandmother's middle name. (My maternal grandmother passed long before I was born and my grandad remarried when I was three. My step grandma really was my grandma-- I never knew anyone else!)
Anyhow, the first time I mentioned those two choices, my mother said "Oh, I'm getting passed right over?" My SIL asked the other day and I told her our two choices. My mother started to complain again that her name was not part of the baby's name! What the heck? Who does that?!
I just said "How about these people get a part of the baby's name, and you can actually be part of the baby's life?"
But of course now I'm worried I'm just going to feel guilty my whole life over what I name my DD.
I'm sorry This is why we won't be sharing the name till the birth...we don't want input form anyone else! It's pretty petty to get worked up over something like that (imo). I hope they back off and allow you to pick the names you feel fit best.
Your mom is being a selfish brat. Sorry. Name *your* child what you want. I really like what you said back to her. My MIL's name is DD's middle name and my mom didn't say a word about it not being her name instead. I hate it when people make your child all about them. It is so wrong.
That is why we don't share our names. My mom (who I love dearly) made a comment over a possible name choice when I was pregnant with my first. We named him something else, but her comment tarnished that name for us. It's driving her batty that we have a name and won't tell her, but she can wait a few more months.
No pressure here. We've always picked names we liked rather than family names. But I have nothing against family names and if that's what you choose I think it's sweet to honor someone that way. And if someone gets their feelings hurt, well they'll just have to move on.
I don't have a problem sharing our name, but we still haven't picked a first name out. Well I haven't picked a first name out. DH really wants me to pick it since he picked the middle and I let him keep it (he wanted the same middle name for our DD now and I vetoed it that time). And I guess it is a family name since it's half of my middle name
This is the #1 reason we don't tell our moms before the baby is born. And even though we've done it the same with our first two, they're already complaining that we won't tell them. You can't win - if you tell them they complain, if you don't they complain.
Luckily I was naming a boy, so no Mom's or Grandmothers were offended in the process lol... I learned quickly you cannot please everyone with names, and in the end they get no say in it. Like it or leave it. They will adapt and if not, then yep, bratty it is... Hope they come around!
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We aren't telling my MIL but I've told my mom and she's not a fan of the girls name we have picked out....but too bad, my husband and I can't agree on anything else so she'll just have to deal with it!!!