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April 2nd, 2008, 07:26 PM
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I've continued to check in on my DDC, there were several women who had similar health issues as me and I really wanted to make sure their babies were ok.

Tonight was the first time I felt truly angry and disgusted at a post there. Someone made a topic called "I hate you all." and complained how everyone was having their babies and they hadn't gone into labor yet. As much as a joke I am sure it was, it hurt so much Every part of me wanted to make a response telling them at least their baby was alive and NOT DEAD. I closed my web browser right away because I don't want to become that kind of person who stops people from having their opinion no matter how disgusted it makes me feel.

I just feel so offended.

I guess maybe it's time to move on.
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April 2nd, 2008, 08:03 PM
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I had to stop checking soon after Devin was born, other than to post/check on posts about Kel when Daniel was born. Otherwise.... I just can't handle it emotionally.

But I guess whatever we need to do. We will never see things the same way again.
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April 2nd, 2008, 08:57 PM
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My DDC was really supportive. My new one, not so much. The complaining ALREADY and we are only 6-10 weeks along. OMG I want to smack some of them. They make me sick complaining about stretch marks and farting! WHO CARES?! I know exactly how you feel but in a different way. I don't feel very welcomed in my DDC because I am straight and to the point about they should just be grateful and quit the bi tc hing......

It is hard to go back when everyone fat and preggo and complaining. I know I won't be able to go around Dominic's PR as much when the babies are turning 1. I will probably be so upset when that day comes. I love being able to throw the first Bday party and I can't do that with Dominic. My friends and family will think I have lost it.
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April 2nd, 2008, 11:04 PM
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When I lost my baby 4 years ago, I wish I had known about this forum. It would have made my life easier. I would have had support. I am sorry.

LeAnn: I was in your DDC for August 2007. If we ever made you feel awful, I apologize. No one would ever blame you for being angry, upset, or whatever you you may be feeling. I want you to know your son crosses my mind often. I think about him because I remember sitting nd crying when I found you lost him. No one should EVER have to lose a child. Your son has my PaPa's name. My PaPa was a wonderful man. So, many times when I think of him, I think of your son.

You ladies are always in my thoughts.

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April 3rd, 2008, 05:24 AM
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Melissa - this forum wasn't around 4 years ago - we had it created just about a year and a bit ago.

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April 3rd, 2008, 09:44 AM
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I know I don't belong in the ddc...not because they don't make me feel welcome, but because every post about kicks, flutters, bellies...cuts like a knife.

I pop in because I want to be sure all the other babies are born healthy, but I really feel like I just need to not be there...kwim?
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April 3rd, 2008, 09:08 PM
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heathernoel - "cuts like a knife" is a very apt description. In my DDC everyone is having babies and hearing them all post about bringing their baby home.... yeah, that just hurts.

LeAnn, I felt like that a lot of the time even through my first pregnancy. One of the reasons I treasured it so much was that I went through a LOT to get pregnant... so yeah, complaints about the little things always got to me too. I just felt blessed to be pregnant in the first place. I puked daily, and still was so freakin happy.
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April 6th, 2008, 11:52 AM
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I know the feeling, I couldn't stay with my DDC either. It was the same as LeAnn's, but I just had a huge empty hole in my heart, and everytime I read about someone still being pregnant, or having a baby, I would break down. It was way too hard emotionally.
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April 6th, 2008, 06:16 PM
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Tonight was the first time I felt truly angry and disgusted at a post there. Someone made a topic called "I hate you all." and complained how everyone was having their babies and they hadn't gone into labor yet. As much as a joke I am sure it was, it hurt so much Every part of me wanted to make a response telling them at least their baby was alive and NOT DEAD. I closed my web browser right away because I don't want to become that kind of person who stops people from having their opinion no matter how disgusted it makes me feel.

I just feel so offended.

I guess maybe it's time to move on.[/b]
I am so sorry about that
post. Although it was me
who posted it, I am very
sorry that it offended you.
Dont leave us. No matter
what you will ALWAYS be
a part of our DDC.


ETA: I stalk you and Nat all
the time because Im always
thinking of you guys, and of
Devin and Sebastian. They
continue being in my prayers
EVERY single night, no lie.
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