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April 4th, 2008, 02:40 PM
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or something like that, right?

I am angry at the drs. office...not the one that took care of me this weekend, but my ob that oversaw this pregnancy from the beginning.

1. Why was I not told of the hemorrhage before hand? What effect did it really have on my pregnancy?
2. Cysts on my ovaries? COmplex? What? Wanna tell me this crap before I lose a baby?
3. Yeah...where's the meds you put me on for bronchitis and later depression? Not on my records, that's for sure!
4. And the u/s pics? Where are they?

Ok. I got that out of my system. Hopefully, it will stay here and not fester. Joe and I decided we won't dwell on it, but move on to a different doctor and tell him that we are watching very carefully.

We decided that when we dtd again, we aren't going to prevent. I am goign to be 34 next week, and he is 12 years older than I. If we get pregnant soon, then great. If not, then, Marshall is our last present from God.

But it won't be with that other dr., who is my friend's brother in law.

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April 4th, 2008, 03:33 PM
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Yes you have every right in the world to be angry, and as long as it doesn't get the best of you then it is healthy.

You should have been told about everything that was happening in your pregnancy. All of your records should be updated and be complete at all times, and the fact that it wasn't really worries me on behalf of other expecting mothers in your area.

But when you get pregnant again, you'll know what things to ask, what to look for. Because of your experience and your loss of Marshall, you'll never be caught off guard again.

I want to share with you my favorite passage from the bible. I've written it in so many cards in the last few years, but it's always brought me comfort.

<div align="center">To everything there is a season,
a time for every purpose under the sun.
A time to be born and a time to die;
a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
a time to kill and a time to heal ...
a time to weep and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn and a time to dance ...
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to lose and a time to seek;
a time to rend and a time to sew;
a time to keep silent and a time to speak;
a time to love and a time to hate;
a time for war and a time for peace.
ecclesiastes 3:1-8
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April 4th, 2008, 06:36 PM
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like Ashley said heather - you have a right to be angry - anything and everything that has occured SHOULD be in your medical records - you are allowed to have a copy of them so request one. I have all my medical records from Washington (the first 12 weeks of this pregnancy and now I am going to get my records from Nova Scotia to take home with me) - it is your right to see what is in your medical records.

When you do get pregnant again (if you chose too) then you may be considered a high risk and that is something to look into - they consider myself high risk and I am monitored very closely.

They are saying you had cysts on your ovaries and you didn't know - I don't agree with that.

Stay Strong Heather -
The pain will get easier, it won't go away but it does get easier
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April 4th, 2008, 08:34 PM
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What am I angry about? Looking back at my u/s with Cora at 23 weeks, I'm pretty sure that the cord was around her neck then. They either didn't notice, or they didn't tell me. If I had known...I would have paid more attention I think.


Ugh.


And ditto to what everyone else said about your medical records!
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April 4th, 2008, 11:11 PM
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In my case the only person I can find fault with is myself... but really, unfortunately, I don't think there was anything anyone could have done.

You certainly have a right to be angry. How terrible that they didn't keep you informed about your own body... I would be so angry about that!

I hope you can find peace someday.
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April 5th, 2008, 02:43 AM
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We can add that I am angry because my doctor stated afterwards that Rebecca might of passed away from diabetes that went untreated in pregancy but my tests were fine - I don't get it.
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