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I just noticed on facebook that I was invited to my 10 year high school reunion. But I don't know whether I want to go or not. I always said I would go to it, but ever since I lost Katrina, I don't feel like facing people and I feel like such a loser that I couldn't even bring my baby into this world alive.
It's in June, but by the way things are going for Jon and I, I bet we won't be pregnant by then, so I really, really don't want to face all the people who are pregnant or have kids already (and I know a lot of them are pregnant right now). It'll just make me more upset / depressed. And even if I am pregnant at that time, hearing so many people talk about their babies will still make me so sad - because I should be talking about my baby (being alive and well) also.
But I don't want to regret not going either. hmmm. Is this weird that I'm having such a difficult time figuring out whether I should go or not???
I would say I was going and then decide on the day if I felt up to it. I never went to mine and don't feel like I missed out but I am not all that sentimental about HS and our graduating class was over 800 so chances are I wouldn't have know most of the people there.
Losing our babies makes what should be easy decisions hard ones.
I didn't go to mine, but it was also a few years ago. It's sucks how much our losses affect our decisions when it comes to seeing people. My cousin's daughter is having her first communion this May and I know a lot of the family will be there that I haven't seen since before my loss and I want to go to see everyone, but I don't want conversation to be focused on the loss the whole time. So I'm seeing if the rest of my immediate family is going, I'll make my decision based on that. I know they will support me.
It's such a personal decision to me and I can't come up with any good advice. I'm sorry.
I agree with LauraG...you should say that you will attend and then see if you are up to it. I didn't go to mine and I don't feel that I missed anything. I think that things like this are good for you to do. They are just one more step in the healing process but you have to be ready to take that step. The day before my son's memorial service, my grandmother died and while the last thing I wanted to do was see ALL those family members and friends so soon, it was good (when it was over) that we did. These things are hard and they suck but they help too. I guess my point is...you have to be ready to take the step and if you aren't then it's ok.