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April 19th, 2009, 12:31 PM
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My due date was today. I'm feeling ok. Yesterday we went and planted flowers on KT's grave. It was our way of remembering he was supposed to be here by now. I'm surprisingly not as upset about it as I thought I would be. I guess because my first DS came 2 weeks early, I don't put too much stock into due dates. The milestone that I'm facing now is that - I can't say any more that I should still be pregnant. I guess it's a good milestone to reach, another step in the healing process. I told DH this morning that I'll always think I should have my baby, but it's nice to no longer be thinking that I should still be pregnant. As always, we're continuing to work on operation baby #3.
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April 19th, 2009, 01:23 PM
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I'm sorry you had to get to your due date and not have your baby with you. It's a horrible feeling.

I was surprised that Katrina's due date didn't affect me as much as I thought it was going to either. We just tried to make it a nice, happy day and do something special for her, instead of being all mopey.

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April 19th, 2009, 01:27 PM
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I really felt similar. Roald's due date was March 2 and even though I knew most women don't deliver o ntheir due date it felt like such a turning point-like, okay now he really, really should be here. Now I can no longer say I should be pregnant (like you said). I felt deeply depressed a week later because I told Bill it just felt like wow...I knew I was really missing out on so much. Like we should have had Roald at home by then.

But the actual day wasn't overly traumatic like I thought it might be, though if someone does feel really terrible on their due date I think that's fine, too. For me I think it wasn't as bad because a due date sort of implies alot about birth. Roald was born. I did have labor, 13.5 hours of it. He was born. I guess maybe since we aren't missing a huge part of what "should have been" on the due date, it makes it easier???

It is sad. That's good that you got to visit his grave and plant him some flowers!
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April 19th, 2009, 05:21 PM
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I'm sorry KT's not here with you. What kind of flowers did you plant?
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April 19th, 2009, 06:34 PM
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I am so sorry. Our son was a bit different. We were past due when Malachi died.
You are in my thoughts.
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April 19th, 2009, 06:34 PM
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I am so sorry. Our son was a bit different. We were past due when Malachi died.
You are in my thoughts.
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April 19th, 2009, 09:21 PM
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I was 12 days away from my due date with Cora. We were full term. Had she been born alive, nobody would have thought twice about what her due date was. Except that my due date happened to fall on Mother's Day.

So for me, Mother's Day is that sort of day, kwim?

I agree with Bonnie though. Since your baby was born, that day is the birthday and the due date isn't what it would be otherwise.

Anyway, to you. I'm sorry that he's not with you.
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April 19th, 2009, 11:13 PM
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awww hun im so sorry that he is not here with u im sory for us all
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April 20th, 2009, 04:49 AM
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I'm glad the day wasn't as hard on you as you thought it would be. I think planting something is a beautiful tribute.
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April 20th, 2009, 06:49 AM
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I'm sorry your baby isn't here with you.
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April 20th, 2009, 07:38 PM
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I can completely remember my due date. My Abby was born at 27w5d and it felt like those 3 months of waiting for the due date was agony and by the time it got here it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be either, and it was the day we actually said our goodbyes and planted her tree. I think planting flowers, trees, is also a very good part of the grieving process. I am glad that today was a little easier than you imagined it to be.
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April 21st, 2009, 04:22 AM
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I am glad the day wasn't as upsetting as you thought it might be. Planting flowers sounds wonderful, what kind did you plant?
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