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April 25th, 2009, 06:11 PM
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Or have we all been left speechless and emotionally numb by what has happened to Nat, Heather and their babies this week? I just can't think of much to say and I just keep waiting to hear how Heather is doing. I keep envisioning how crushed I would be if losing a baby happened AGAIN. I can't even imagine it.

I'm glad to hear your surgery at least went well Nat, but it still sucks that you have to be pretty much immobile while healing. I still just can't believe this crap happened to you girls.
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April 25th, 2009, 06:18 PM
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I admit it made me cry more than once. It is so unfair. I think it also brings back a tiny bit of our own losses, mine is still fresh. When I hear someone else going through the same thing it is hard. Oddly though I get the want to scream take photos! Yeah this whole ting has left me a bit abnormal I think.
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April 25th, 2009, 07:02 PM
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It's not just you. I cannot stop thinking about them and how horrible and unfair it is.

There are absolutely no words I could say that could possibly comfort them right now. I am just so very sorry.
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April 25th, 2009, 07:14 PM
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Definitely not just you. I have been thinking about them both. My heart goes out to them, so freaking unfair! I wish we had some news on Heather but of course nothing can be said that will make it better.
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April 25th, 2009, 07:21 PM
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Yep, me too. it's so unfair.
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April 25th, 2009, 07:49 PM
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I think we're all more than a bit abnormal. Photos is the first thing I think about when someone mentions a loss... and one of the things that will be on my mind if I ever get to a late term pregnancy again... have a bag packed and ready to go.

Honestly I think I'm a little happy I have some physical pain to deal with right now. It's keeping me focused, you know? Something to think about other than the loss and the setbacks and the anger.

Been so worried about Heather. Like Laura said, not that we can do anything about it, but it just makes me freaking sick.
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April 26th, 2009, 02:33 AM
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i feel so sad i hate that i cant say anything to make them better i cant even find anything to say words fail me and i feel awful for not finding anything to say to help them.

im just so so sorry nat and heather ill admit that too i ve cried for u both
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April 26th, 2009, 05:37 AM
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I could tell our board was, well, different the last few days. It's like we're at a standstill. Hearing about these things has brought back alot of the pain from Roald. I just remember the shock of it happening once...twice, uh. One of my best freinds had a loss at 18 weeks and a stillborn at 40 weeks; they were 6 years apart and she said Savannah hurt worse, but I feel just terrible. She still has no living children and I know she wants them so badly. And now I see Heather and Nat going through two losses...it's just heartbreaking.
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April 27th, 2009, 12:07 PM
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I've been pretty much disgusted lately hearing what happened. Just disgusted that it's even possible that it could happen twice. Just mad at the world for them.

And it probably shattered some crazy part of me (that hasn't learned better yet) that was able to have the thought that it just wouldn't happen to someone twice. Probably that was some reassurance a part of me had that I wouldn't need to be afraid again if I ever wanted to have another. THat's a stupid part of me because I know it can happen and I know beyond a doubt that I'll be afraid.

I'm just so sad for them. And down that we've all been so sad lately with our existing losses too. It just seems like it's been a hard time for so many lately.
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April 27th, 2009, 01:13 PM
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I've always thought that if someone experiences a loss (especially a late one), and especially after struggling with fertility, that they should get a free pass, kwim? Oh, you had a stillbirth? You'll never have to worry about losing another one...


But of course nobody asked me.

What it brought back for me was struggle with the unfairness of it all. In the end I really want to believe that life balances somehow. And every time I get to the point where I can start believing it again, something happens to just shatter that.
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