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April 29th, 2009, 11:03 AM
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But I had a question for you.


My dear friend and cousin lost her little boy last June at 17 weeks.

As the anniversary of his birth/death approaches, I am wondering how to handle it. Do I mention it? Do I let her say something if she chooses?

I don't want her to think we've forgotten Caleb, but I don't want to upset her either.
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April 29th, 2009, 11:14 AM
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The sweetest question from a sweet friend!

I would welcome any acknowledgement of my child (now -ren). A card, an angel statue, a teddy bear...will be sure to melt her heart.
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April 29th, 2009, 11:34 AM
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I agree with Heather - acknowledging it is the best thing you could do for your cousin!
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April 29th, 2009, 11:46 AM
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I agree with Heather - acknowledging it is the best thing you could do for your cousin!
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April 29th, 2009, 12:04 PM
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yep, Definitely acknowledge the baby.

When Katrina's 1st Angelversary comes up this August, I know I will feel really hurt if some people (family, close friends) don't acknowledge her.
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April 29th, 2009, 12:13 PM
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Yes... mention it. Ask her how she is. Send a small gift or card. Use his name. She hasn't forgotten at all and other people remembering her son won't hurt... it helps.
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April 29th, 2009, 12:29 PM
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even if u just let her know u r thinking of her and her angel she will be happy aknoledgement means the world. sorry for your cousin hun
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April 29th, 2009, 12:53 PM
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I agree with the other ladies. Bringing it up won't upset her. She's thinking about it all the time anyway. Approaching that anniversary thinking you're the only one who remembers is SO lonely. I know it would mean the world to her. Anything, even just a phone call, would be so wonderful.

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April 29th, 2009, 03:29 PM
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I agree with everyone. Definitely acknowledge the birthday. Send a card, a statue, call, something. She needs to know she isn't the only one who remembers her precious child.
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April 29th, 2009, 03:36 PM
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I agree with everyone. I get a card on the 1st of every month (Dec 1st is Alyssa's loss date) from my friend that is just so nice and brings me to tears every month...I look forward to the cards.
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