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May 6th, 2009, 12:14 PM
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My baby is finally at the funeral home, his urn is there, waiting, and it's going to happen tonight. The director told me she held him and told him how much he's loved.

So, tonight, my son will return to ashes, completing his little circle of life.

Why does it hurt so bad now? I remember that I was comforted with Marshall's cremation...maybe I just need time?
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May 6th, 2009, 12:49 PM
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Heather.

I have never been in your situation but I am here if you ever want to talk.
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May 6th, 2009, 12:54 PM
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Maybe it hurts so bad now because it's happening again. It's like, the nightmare is really real now. I think it's easy to subconsciously think that your baby is in someone else's care, but still alive, still here. But once the cremation is complete, it's real. And that reality hurts.


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May 6th, 2009, 01:08 PM
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aww heather im so so sorry many many
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May 6th, 2009, 02:47 PM
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I'm so sorry Heather. It's not fair.
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May 6th, 2009, 03:15 PM
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I...want...my...son. I feel shocked all over again.
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May 6th, 2009, 03:17 PM
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May 6th, 2009, 03:37 PM
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Aww, Heather

You put it simply. As many words as we try to find to express our grief, it all comes down to what I was yelling when I was in labor with Roald...and what you're saying now:

"I WANT MY BABY/SON!!!!!"

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May 6th, 2009, 04:00 PM
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I am so sorry.
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May 6th, 2009, 06:17 PM
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Big to you. I am so sorry.
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May 6th, 2009, 06:20 PM
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I'm so sorry it hurts so bad, that it's not bringing comfort like you were hoping.

I remember when we planted the tree for Devin, when we dug up the earth and then covered up the ball of roots with dirt it physically HURT inside me. Like someone was ripping my heart open all over again.

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May 6th, 2009, 09:14 PM
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I am so sorry hun
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May 6th, 2009, 09:31 PM
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I'm so sorry Heather

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May 7th, 2009, 06:28 AM
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May 9th, 2009, 06:49 PM
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oh hun, I know how hard it is .. it is like closing a chapter.. of a good book you can never go back. .. *hug*
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