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by one of my best girl friends and the principal, coming to me as a friend. They are worried about me, etc...
I asked them how I should be acting, and they didn't know. I told them to be patient, it was my first week at work, I'm missing two kids, and I'm out of sorts. I'm also on xanax, am a bit forgetful, and I'm leaking like a sieve.
On one hand, so nice of them. On the other, I don't know how to respond to that. Am I not doing what I need to as a grieving mother?
my thanks to Claire1979 for the awesome siggy!!
i was worried about the school run after i was the woman who's baby dies while still in he womb the woman who had a stillbirth, the one they were all gossiping about behind my back! its so very hard hun but how do u grieve cause i dont know either just go with your feelings at that time, thinking of u and your boys on saturday
You are going through the most difficult grieving times in life right now. Two babies not here with you has got to be the most painful. I feel so bad, I think of you every day. I personally think you are handling this extremely well. You are right to not know how to respond. It is nice that they are checking on you though.
I got it from both sides. On bad days, people were worried about me. On good days, people were worried that I was burying it all. I couldn't win, so I just avoided all but my closest friends for a while. I don't think there's any one right way. There are as many ways to grieve as there are women grieving.
I experienced the SAME THING after the loss of Asher and Noah. I am a teacher and took a full 12 weeks off because I KNEW there was no way I could "deal" with what I was going through. It was just awful.
I had several family members (on DH's side) telling me how HORRIBLY I was handling things and how I needed to "get over it" because I'm "young" and can "have another baby"....things like that just made me sick inside and there are still two people in DH's family that I have NOT spoken to since December 2007 (his aunt and his sister) They said such hurtful things to me and I can never forgive them, not that they've asked for forgiveness
I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. It is obvious that their intentions were good, and I'm sure they feel lost and don't know how to help.
Just continue to move forward, one "baby step" at a time. I actually needed that reminder so often that I got the words tattooed on me so I'd never forget. You're in my prayers hunnie, today and every day
I took 3 months off after Rebecca died and when I went back to work it was a new job that no one knew unless I told them - it was better that way for me -I am glad you have firneds that are going to be there for you - and only you know if you are doing it right Heather
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)
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