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August 11th, 2009, 08:29 AM
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Sorry I haven't been around much. Things got a bit hectic around here and I haven't had the time to sit and respond. I have been reading and trying to stay up to date as much as possible though.

I've been doing ok lately. Being busy has kept my mind off of things, but I read this story today:
Baby declared 'dead' wakes up in time for his own funeral

It got me so mad. Just so so mad. Of course now I'm thinking of my girls and how much I miss them. I just want to hold them again. It's just so unfair. I still can't decided if I want to be pregnant again. I don't think I can handle it. I don't even know what to do. I haven't even spoken to DH about this yet. He wants children, I really don't think I do anymore. I just don't know what to do.

I haven't heard from the Dr. about my miscarriage. I have no desire to call to see if there are any answers.

Ugh... life just sucks sometimes.
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August 11th, 2009, 09:02 AM
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The saddest part is that the baby ended up dying later. Could he have been saved with immediate medical care? Maybe. So very very sad.


I'm sorry you're still having such a hard time, Steph. I wish there was something I could do to make it easier on you. I wish I could say "go ahead and TTC, you'll get to take that one home." I just have hopes for you. I've been praying for you honey. I hope you can regain some equilibrium. I hope I hope I hope. That's all I can do, hope and pray, and sometimes it doesn't feel like enough.

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August 11th, 2009, 11:36 AM
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Wow, that is almost an unbelievable story. And so sad. I seriously would probably have thought I was mentally unstable if I had what I believed to be a dead baby in a box and I heard him crying. Just wow. I feel so terrible for those parents.

Stephanie...I can't say it any better than Brittanie. I don't believe any decisions should be made in haste, but I hope you figure out with a clear sureness what it is that you and Neal are going to do. I am sure you are so scared of another pregnancy. I just wish things were different. I would love to see you holding a baby in your arms someday. It's just not fair. And I'm sure your arms still ache for Kayla, Kaitlin and your lost baby. I know mine still ache for Roald. I just want good things for you.
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August 11th, 2009, 11:36 AM
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Wow, that is almost an unbelievable story. And so sad. I seriously would probably have thought I was mentally unstable if I had what I believed to be a dead baby in a box and I heard him crying. Just wow. I feel so terrible for those parents.

Stephanie...I can't say it any better than Brittanie. I don't believe any decisions should be made in haste, but I hope you figure out with a clear sureness what it is that you and Neal are going to do. I am sure you are so scared of another pregnancy. I just wish things were different. I would love to see you holding a baby in your arms someday. It's just not fair. And I'm sure your arms still ache for Kayla, Kaitlin and your lost baby. I know mine still ache for Roald. I just want good things for you.
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August 11th, 2009, 11:51 AM
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Steph ((HUGS))

I imagine how hard it must be to want to try to get pregnant again after what you've been through, but then not being sure if you want children anymore. But I do agree --- don't make any decisions in haste; you are still going through a very vulnerable period and if it takes some soul-searching to decide if you don't want children, so be it. But give that thought some time.

In the meantime, we love ya girl, and we're always here to listen to you whenever you need us
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August 13th, 2009, 11:08 PM
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I am sorry your having such a hard time
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August 14th, 2009, 06:06 AM
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