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August 17th, 2009, 11:58 PM
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So last year when we lost Katrina, my Grandma and one of my Aunts gave us a beautiful orchid. We don't know too much about orchids (since they're very finicky plants), so we didn't expect it to survive all that long (my work had one and we killed it within 3 weeks, and they're supposed to last a good many months ).

So anyway, because it was such a beautiful flower and it was for Katrina, Jon looked into how to take good care of it and make it survive as long as it possibly could. We ended up having it survive until almost December 2008 (4 months after losing Katrina) and then the flowers fell off because winter came and it got too cold.

So Jon insisted not to get rid of it because he heard they can grow back again if you take good care of them. So about a week before we found out we were pregnant with Sweet Pea here, it started growing again. When I found out I was pregnant a week later, me being me, correlated that it's almost like life being formed again and I took it as a good thing that this orchid growing again was a sign for the health and survival of our baby here (I'm a little bit weird and superstitious like that).

So of course last week, basically on Katrina's one year angelversary, because Jon had taken such good care of it, the new stem grew too much, too fast, that it ended up snapping. Jon went in to talk to someone at a flower shop to ask if it could be salvaged and they said no, we'll just have to try again and wait for it to grow back again. So of course, again me being me, I keep worrying that this is a bad sign that something bad will happen with Sweet Pea .

Please, tell me I'm crazy. I need to know I'm being ridiculous and the flower stem snapping has no correlation what-so-ever with the health and survival of Sweet Pea. I know I sound like an idiot to everyone who reads this, but losing Katrina has made me think up the most crazy things and I start thinking that everything has a reason behind it and that life is out to get me or something.

Ugh, why do I stress myself out like this!!!

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August 18th, 2009, 07:27 AM
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No, that plant has no correlation to Sweet Pea's health. I know how it is, I did that when I was pregnant with Erin. Obviously I was wrong every time, since she's alive and well and a cranky two year old.

Take a deep breath. It'll be okay.


That's really sad about the orchid though. I hope it grows back for you guys!
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August 18th, 2009, 08:26 PM
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I agree with brittanie. Everything will be fine.
I cannot give any advice other than have faith that things will be fine.
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August 19th, 2009, 12:17 PM
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I agree w/Brittanie. I think we all want to find comfort in odd places. And we should, but I think it has no correlation. They are beautiful plants but not that hearty. I'm sure it was taken care of, and it should be kept in memorial of your little one (We keep a massive peace lily). But I wouldn't lump it in w/this pregnancy.
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August 19th, 2009, 06:17 PM
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I'm not superstitious...at all. I will admit to the orchid growing back when you got pregnant with your new baby seems really cool...but I don't think it snapping has anything to do with the welfare of your little baby!!!

I don't think someone would have to be superstitious to worry about something like that after losing a child though. I have all sorts of worries this pregnancy. I worry if I sit too long a certain way I am going to squish the baby in half (yeah I'm serious!!! I used to worry about that with Roasld blamed it on my drinking caffeine in moderation and my sitting for too long most days). Crazy...but it
s "normal" for us, I think.
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August 19th, 2009, 07:59 PM
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Please don't think that way. Please just have faith and everything will be fine. And you don't sound like an idiot, I think it's common among people who had this experience to look for certain things and find correlation. I know I'm doing this a lot after what happened to us. I keep recalling little odd things that would've pointed out to what's ahead for us.

It'll be okay.
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