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I am sorry I haven't been on much. I am just not in a good place. I am just over 24 weeks, and I was 24 weeks when Eva died. That would be bad enough if I didn't have other things to stress me out. The past four or five days I have noticed Declan moving less. It's not just less, either, it's weaker. I have been using my doppler, and I hear his heartbeat, but I just know something is wrong. Today I finally lost it and ended up in the ER in tears. I was able to hear the heartbeat, but I want to feel movement, too. They are sending my for an u/s, a 2hr glucose test, and they are checking my hemoglobin (again), thyroid and a few other things, but they aren't doing the tests for another two weeks. It is the waiting two weeks to do all of this that I find stressful. The OB specified two weeks for the blood work, but all he said about the u/s was that it didn't have to be today. I feel like calling them and saying that I need it sooner than two weeks. If they can't do it in town, then I will go somewhere else. I just can't shake the feeling that history is about to repeat itself and my baby is going to die again. I am a wreck. My head is throbbing from all the crying and stress. What do I do? I feel so helpless. If I am just going off the deep end because of stress, then I can't imagine what my mental state will be like in another 15 weeks. Sorry everyone for the vent.
The last two days I have been worried because I am feeling less movement too.
I would just call if I were you. Make them feel bad and tell them you cannot wait that long or you will go nuts emotionally. They should work with you to get it done ASAP. We were uninsured during the gestaitional week Roald died and then I had him this pregnancy and I felt like I was so depressed and going nuts. Luckily then I was feeling alot of movement. Now I'm 26 weeks and just last night it seemed like she wasn't moving alot or was sleeping for a long time. It is enough to drive you nuts. I even checked with the heart listening thing I have and I couldn't hear any kicks last night. I have felt some movement today so I thin kshe was just tired.
But...hey. Don't fight your intuition. I would totally call and explain how emotional you are and you just really need that reassurance. Maybe if you play the "I have a living child to take care of" card on top of it they may be even more willing to help you sooner.
oh Laurie I can see how that would be so stressful. I'll be praying that everything is alright with Declan. It's so much scarier having gone through a loss in the first place, I'm going to be freaking out when I get further along when I have to start counting kicks.
If I were you, I would try to get an u/s sooner. I think it'll just give you that reassurance you need to know that everything is fine with Declan. Two weeks may actually come quick, but it's going to seem like forever to you and you're going to continuously stress yourself out in that time.
I agree with calling and trying to get in sooner. There's no harm in that and your stress can be affecting Declan (total logic circle there...you stress from the milestone, so he starts moving less in reaction, so you stress MORE). It's totally worth it for you to get that peace of mind. Go with your gut. Trust yourself.