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September 7th, 2009, 11:51 AM
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Welcome to Monday Moans

What is on your mind today - what makes you upset or makes you want to moan......
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September 7th, 2009, 02:48 PM
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I have been down a lot the past few days. I have actually been in hiding from my family. My sister-in-law is pregnant and due in the next week and seeing her brings up all these emotions......that I should still be pregnant now and I was only a month and a half behind her. So I haven't been to any family events and have been avoiding her like the plague. I know if I did come around it would be all about her and the baby, which it always was anyway, but I can't be around that now. I think family doesn't understand and I am thought just to be a snot that doesn't want to do anything. So I don't know if this counts as a Monday Moan, cause I can moan about it Tues, Wed, Thurs, and the rest of the week too!
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September 7th, 2009, 03:37 PM
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not too bad at the mo no moans here ( not today)
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September 7th, 2009, 08:39 PM
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I dunno. I have work tomorrow and my supervisor is pregnant but hasn't told me yet. I found out from someone else. I wonder if she plans on telling me or just showing up in her maernity uniform in a few weeks.
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September 7th, 2009, 10:23 PM
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Well, I'm mostly upset these days. Some strange little things make me upset. The main thing that I'm dreading is coming back to work next week. I think about it every day for the past few weeks. I'm upset about having to go thru the remainder of my last few days before maternity leave and how happy I was to start my maternity leave.
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September 8th, 2009, 12:28 PM
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to all of you. We should have simple moans, like having to do taxes or attending a function we would rather avoid. It isn't fair that our moans have to be so....heartbreaking.
It isn't Monday anymore, but I will add my moans, too. I have to go back to the doctor for my follow-up appointment and I don't want to. I am afraid he is going to want to do another D&C because I am still bleeding and I don't want to be touched anymore. I had to have a D&C after I had Eva, and I blame that for my ectopic.
It has been two weeks since I had Declan and his body still hasn't been released to the funeral home. Why is the autopsy taking so long? I am waiting so impatiently for the results. It is literally all I can think about.
I am exhausted by grief. I have been grieving for almost 15 months and there is no end in sight. I am simply drained and depressed by how sad and dark my life has become. I am considering calling my doctor (GP, not OBGYN) and asking for some anti-depressants, but I know he will make me come in for an appointment and I don't want to. Ugh. I guess I have a lot of moans. Sorry....
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my only moan yesterday was that I still have a house to unpack and no one is helping me
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September 8th, 2009, 04:55 PM
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Laurie, I bled for about 4 weeks after i had Colm and didn't need a D&C.
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September 8th, 2009, 05:47 PM
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Laurie-DH even cannot believe they still have his body. *** is taking them so long??? I've personally never heard of an adult autopsy taking this long. Does this also mean you have not yet been able to have a funeral/memorial for him? ***, They should be ashamed of themselves. I'd be livid.

I bled for 15 days after I had Roald. Do not let him push another D&C on you. I have read lots of stuff about the things D & Cs contribute to and you are right in that it may have been a factor in your ecotpic. It's only been 15 days since birth; tell him to back off if they are pushy about that. I don't think it's necessary, especially since it has only been a couple weeks.

I just feel so bad. You should not be going through all of this again. I can only imagine how terrible life must be for you right now. I just don't understand why you have to suffer through this a second time.
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September 8th, 2009, 06:43 PM
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Meg - It was only around a month after I had Eva that I had my D&C. I was still bleeding bright red and passing clots three weeks after I had her so they did an u/s to look for retained tissue. I am still bleeding bright red, but it is sporadic now so I would refuse a D&C anyway.
Bonnie - They told us that the autopsy would take about two weeks (I really don't know WHY it takes that long), but that doesn't stop me from wanting him back. They idea of them performing the autopsy is distressing enough for me, and I just want him home again.
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