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September 11th, 2009, 07:33 AM
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There is a woman that works downstairs in my facility (a large multi-disciplne medical clinic), she is in my Sqaudron so I know her. We had a monthly meeting today and they announced that she had her baby, but she is not doing well and is in the NICU at CHOP. I feel so sad for her. We were due on the same day.

Now onto the people not getting it. They said there is a card to sign and a collection being taken for flowers, etc. I know they didn't do that when Colm died. And I know that they don't see my loss as being as difficult or important as her srtuggle with her daughter. And it makes me angry.
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September 11th, 2009, 07:44 AM
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People who haven't been through a similar loss will never get it. I get angry too but at the same time I try to be glad that they don't have the same perspective as I do because I would never wish it on anyone. Doesn't necessarily make it hurt less though. <HUGS>
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September 11th, 2009, 07:58 AM
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That is part of the problem fo rme though. My Squadron commander DID have a loss, she lost twins at 20 weeks. And even SHE doesn't get it, which of course I don't get.
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September 11th, 2009, 08:18 AM
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That is part of the problem fo rme though. My Squadron commander DID have a loss, she lost twins at 20 weeks. And even SHE doesn't get it, which of course I don't get.
Oh, I don't get that either. She should definitely get it.
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September 11th, 2009, 09:05 AM
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I guess some ppl really do "get over" this...I know I never will!!!!
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September 11th, 2009, 09:20 AM
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wow im surprised that she dosent get it too i mean how do you get over it??

so sorry hun
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September 11th, 2009, 09:30 AM
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One thing that has been told to me by a couple of different people (who have experience losses) is that it's something you never get over, but you get through.
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September 11th, 2009, 12:45 PM
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Wow, I don't understand that woman not getting it...what the heck.

I know one of my best friends IRL has a mother who had a fullterm stillborn daughter around 2001 and afterward she burned all the pictures and said she never wanted to talk about it again. That has always bothered me.

I would personally be very hurt that they are doing this for this woman but that they didn't do it for me.
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September 11th, 2009, 01:30 PM
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Some people disconnect themselves from painful things. It is a shame.
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