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October 23rd, 2009, 06:09 PM
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So my sister called the funeral home for me this evening...They told me monday that I would hear from them by the end of the week....I guess what happend was the death certificate wasn't filled out correctly, and they just late today got the permit to cremate...My sister told them that they should of called me, and they said they were sorry...I really don't like this woman they have in charge of us, she was very unkind on monday when I went in...My husband is furious and wants to call and talk to whoever is in charge...I don't know why they are treating this like it's nothing and us like crap...Maybe they think because she was a stillborn that it doesn't mean as much? I don't know but i'm furious.
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October 23rd, 2009, 07:57 PM
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I'm really surprised how very often people in that line of work have no sensitivity whatsoever. Maybe it's because they deal with this sort of thing all the time. I doubt it's specifically you are Ella, I'm sure she's like that to everyone (which doesn't make it any better on her end, but at least it's not YOU).

I'm glad they've finally got the permit though. It'll be over soon
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October 24th, 2009, 08:42 PM
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October 24th, 2009, 10:00 PM
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I asked my MIL if they wanted to see a picture of the baby and she basically told me no...I shouldn't of even asked, but she keeps emailing asking how we are doing...My husband's sister had a baby girl stillborn about 6 years ago, she was about as far along as me....I feel like we are being compared to how his sister handled it...We were never told about what happend till after I had my last daughter (we were pregnant at the same time)...His family pretty much has never talked about it...I guess i'm kind of upset that his mom didn't want to see a picture of the baby...Except for the fact that her skin is dark, she looks just like a normal preterm baby to me...Am I just seeing her differently?...I'm not going to email his mom anymore about this because honestly that really hurts that she doesn't want to see her pictures...My mom came to the hospital and held her.
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October 24th, 2009, 10:14 PM
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I thought she looked so perfect, just small (and the skin color was off, like it is with babies born at that gestation). I don't think you were seeing her differently. I'm sorry that his family's previous experience is making them react that way to you. Like we've said before, do what YOU need to do. Each person reacts differently to grief, so it's unfair of them to think that what she did is what you "should" do.

I think I'd probably stop emailing her too. I have had to stop talking to my dad about Cora because he makes me angry every time it comes up.

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