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November 8th, 2009, 03:26 PM
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We found out he was gone November 13, I was induced November 14 and he was born 12:30 AM November 15. They said he had been dead about a week. So I always assumed sometime between November 7-10 he died in utero without our knowing it. I know about a week before we found out is when the feeling "changed" and I became less sick than I was when he was alive, but at the time we thought it was just different movement and my sickness wearing off.

I feel so sad. Everything smells the same and seems the same and those same sad feelings are creeping back in. I am afraid of the mess I am going to be come Friday, the 13th.
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We found out he was gone November 13, I was induced November 14 and he was born 12:30 AM November 15. They said he had been dead about a week. So I always assumed sometime between November 7-10 he died in utero without our knowing it. I know about a week before we found out is when the feeling "changed" and I became less sick than I was when he was alive, but at the time we thought it was just different movement and my sickness wearing off.

I feel so sad. Everything smells the same and seems the same and those same sad feelings are creeping back in. I am afraid of the mess I am going to be come Friday, the 13th.
I'm so sorry for your loss, especially with mine being so recent. I can't imagine the hurt you are going through coming up on the 1yr. But I'm sure I'll understand once my little ones angelversaries comes. I know as women we are strong and can get through anything, hopefully you have lots of friends and family around for support and I'm sure this board and the ladies on it are here for you!!

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November 8th, 2009, 04:13 PM
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to you, Bonnie. We'll be here for you this coming weekend.
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November 8th, 2009, 04:26 PM
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(((Bonnie)))
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November 8th, 2009, 04:35 PM
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It was hard for me, reliving those days while pregnant with Erin. I could recall vividly what exactly I was doing at any point those 3 days leading up to finding out.

It's hard, but you'll make it through. And when you have Vera in your arms it'll be such a relief.

But until then, we'll be here for you whenever you need us.
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November 8th, 2009, 04:37 PM
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We are here for you...I'm sure i'll be a mess next October too
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November 8th, 2009, 05:55 PM
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Bonnie, I'm so sorry... I know how difficult this time must be for you. (You'll hear about mine tomorrow... I seriously don't know how I'm going to handle it. The emotions are just running rampant through my body.) I pray for you and Vera often, hoping that you both are doing well.
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November 9th, 2009, 07:42 AM
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Hugs! Please stay strong for Vera.
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November 9th, 2009, 07:59 AM
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Bonnie. It's unfortunate how all too familiar we all are about these feelings and situations

I'm sure this is a very, very difficult time for you but know that we are all here for you.
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November 9th, 2009, 08:20 AM
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i will be thinking of you the next few days bonnie im just want to give you a hug (())
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November 9th, 2009, 09:55 AM
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That is so sad. I'm so sorry *hugs*
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November 10th, 2009, 07:26 AM
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Many hugs, mama. (((hugs))) I discovered Duncan was gone on the 13th. I knew he was gone late morning when I couldn't get his heartbeat on my doppler. I tried on and off throughout the day and nothing. We got confirmation that night and was induced/had him the next morning.

From the pathology report it looked like he passed 3-4 days prior to birth. I just know I felt him move Monday evening on the 10th. I remember watching Heroes and feeling him move around.
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