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November 13th, 2009, 01:56 PM
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If someone you don't know on an email group flat out asked to see pictures of your baby? I don't mind sharing pictures of Ella with people I feel comfortable with, but to someone that doesn't know me, and has been kind of rude in the past to ask to see pictures? Someone just asked me and i'm really upset about it and asked to be removed from that group...I would never come out and just ask someone to see pictures.
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November 13th, 2009, 02:08 PM
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I wouldn't find it rude, but then again I jump at the chance to show pictures.
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November 13th, 2009, 02:14 PM
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It depends on what kind of message group it is. Let's be honest --- we here all don't know each other from Adam, but we HAVE established some sort of trust amongst each other. Similar to any other group.

If it was a stillbirth / pregnancy loss / infant loss support group --- no, I don't think it's rude at all. If it's a gardening (knitting, cooking, etc.) chat forum and people there KNEW of your stillbirth, I might find the request a tad indifferent but not rude.
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November 13th, 2009, 02:58 PM
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It's actually an email group, emails back and forth etc...I joined a couple weeks before Ella died...I didn't most of them very well and this woman was very rude and mean before the stillbirth...I have been on hold for the last month and just rejoined a couple days ago...It was a picture share day, so I sent a picture of my kids and Ella's Urn...Well she replied a couple of times to the email, but then today asked in a rude way (I thought it was rude, but she is just a rude person period) and asked to see pictures...I guess I feel differently because i'd never ask anyone to see pictures, unless they wanted to show me (if that makes sense)...I don't mind shareing pictures with people that I know, I guess I just don't want someone trying to gaulk at them and say "ew gross" kind of a thing (she is that kind of a person).
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November 13th, 2009, 03:37 PM
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If she was mean, I would not share. I had someone turn Ethan's pictures into a joke, and while I didn't find it that distressing, I imagine that most people would.
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November 13th, 2009, 03:47 PM
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I think it's awful I guess that's what I worry about...I know that no one here would, or no one that I know IRL, or even some of my Internet friends that I've known for years...I guess I'm not that trusting of some people, and I think I'm good on vibes and this woman did not give me a good vibe....After I told her she was rude she then sent me a pretty mean email....I mean really? Right after I rejoined this group after being gone for over 4 weeks they had to bring up the subject of someone else's new baby...I don't mind this, but it was on the email that had JUST added me...Could they not of talked about this for the last 4+ weeks I was gone? I almost felt like it was done on purpose, but maybe that's just me being sensitive.
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November 15th, 2009, 07:38 AM
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