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July 2nd, 2010, 02:26 PM
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to think of a title for this.

Joe's nephew is marrying his cousin. Yeah. You heard me. Their fathers have different fathers, but the same mother. They were raised as cousins, and are getting married because they are having a baby. They just told everyone, but apparently she is due in November with a little boy.

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THANK GOD the baby seems to be ok. Not only do they have the same blood going through them, but they are both smokers (cigs and pot) and live an unhealthy lifestyle. Neither works, and they live in a trailer with his uncle/her father where HIS wife brings home the pay. I don't wish ill upon the baby at ALL, but of course they get a healthy baby, right? Joe and I don't share the same gene pool, and I'm a healthy pregnant woman who has lost two babies.

I care deeply for each of them, but am disgusted that they even carried on this way. Their shared grandmother is throwing them a wedding in two weeks. Great. I can't wait. A nighttime wedding in Florida. Outside.

And everyone's all a twitter about their baby.
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July 2nd, 2010, 02:39 PM
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That's creepy
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July 2nd, 2010, 02:51 PM
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Ha! That's an understatement. Joe and I joke about it because otherwise we just shudder. I'm thinking about wearing a maternity dress with an arrow pointing at my belly saying "Not my cousin's".
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July 2nd, 2010, 03:07 PM
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Personally I don't think it's creepy. Cousins can marry and have kids without any problems linked to them being related. My friend's two cousins got married 6 years ago. Granted relatives found it awkward when asked if they were from the groom's side or the bride's side because they were from both!

Having healthy babies when the parents have unhealthy lifestyles is what gets me. People just don't seem to realise what they can do to their little ones carrying on like that.
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July 2nd, 2010, 03:10 PM
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I don't even know what to say...

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I'm thinking about wearing a maternity dress with an arrow pointing at my belly saying "Not my cousin's".
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July 2nd, 2010, 03:19 PM
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I too think it's creepy...I could never think of a cousin in that way...eww lol about the unhealthy lifestyle...I don't know this person, but someone I know does...She was staying in a place and they wanted to give her a drug test (she's pregnant) and she didn't want to do a drug test so she left...It was because she uses drugs! that makes me so sad
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July 2nd, 2010, 03:50 PM
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Ha! That's an understatement. Joe and I joke about it because otherwise we just shudder. I'm thinking about wearing a maternity dress with an arrow pointing at my belly saying "Not my cousin's".

I just about wet my pants reading that.
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July 2nd, 2010, 04:40 PM
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I do find that rather odd....
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July 2nd, 2010, 05:07 PM
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Ha! That's an understatement. Joe and I joke about it because otherwise we just shudder. I'm thinking about wearing a maternity dress with an arrow pointing at my belly saying "Not my cousin's".
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July 2nd, 2010, 06:16 PM
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I like the dress idea .

I'm not down with incest, so I agree with the "creepiness" of it all.
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July 2nd, 2010, 07:08 PM
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I'm with Yvonne. First cousin marriages are legal in 35 states (mine included) and are incredibly common all over the world. They are also quite safe from a genetic standpoint, with very low rates of mutations, contrary to popular belief. It is only repeated generations continue the practice that problems arise. That is what my sister sees a lot at her clinic, mostly from wealthy families in the Middle East (where they care enough to get help for their sick children, other countries' families will just hide them away and pretend they don't exist.)

You know what's ****** up? Sometimes my sister's clinic sees children from FIRST ORDER relationships. Including but not limited to sibling-sibling and father-daughter. Their children sadly pay the price. I guess these families don't think geneticists will figure out what's going on. It's so obvious even I could probably work that one out.
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July 2nd, 2010, 07:31 PM
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Personally I don't think it's creepy. Cousins can marry and have kids without any problems linked to them being related. My friend's two cousins got married 6 years ago. Granted relatives found it awkward when asked if they were from the groom's side or the bride's side because they were from both!

Having healthy babies when the parents have unhealthy lifestyles is what gets me. People just don't seem to realise what they can do to their little ones carrying on like that.
I totally agree. I know a few people who married their cousins. It doesn't bother me at all.

But I always feel icky when people who lead horribly unhealthy lives have healthy children. Like the women who go get drunk while pregnant ext
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July 5th, 2010, 07:13 AM
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I think the idea makes me shudder because I start picturing my own cousins and I really don't think I'd be attracted to any of them even if they weren't related to me.

I hate it when people with unhealthy lifestyles conceive easily and have great pregnancies. Makes me so angry.

love the dress idea!
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July 5th, 2010, 08:29 AM
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i don't have any cousins my age, or close to my age even really..but if i did, and we got pregnant I believe i would be excommunicated from my family. The general thought when dh and i got prego out of wedlock was "WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?!", so if i was related to dh, i imagine the reaction would be much worse!

I have heard though of a couple who were both adopted by different families or something but they were actually brother and sister. They didn't find out till after they were married i think, i don't know the details. Crazy sh*t. crazy crazy sh*t
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