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November 2nd, 2010, 07:38 PM
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And he's still alive.

Maybe this is morbid, to think this way, but DH and I were both in tears. His brother and sister should be 6 months too, but they're not here. Today, when Grant and I went to vote, everyone asked me if he was my first child. I just smiled weakly and said yes. That's what I tell strangers. I don't want to depress them or myself.

But Grant has an older brother. I have two children.

Maybe it seems stupid, but yesterday we celebrated Grant's half-birthday like a regular birthday. It's a victory for us, even if it's small.

It's ****** up that we think this way. I want to be naive like everybody else.
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November 3rd, 2010, 06:26 AM
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You know, I look at my kids too and think that. "wow, they're still alive."

I hate the questions of how many children you have. It's so emotionally complicated. No matter how you answer.
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November 3rd, 2010, 08:28 AM
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Happy 6 months Grant!

I hate the question of how many kids I have too. I feel bad no matter how I answer.
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November 3rd, 2010, 08:36 PM
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I hate the question of how many kids I have too. I feel bad no matter how I answer.
I agree, there is no right answer to that question. I'm the same as you though Rebecca, when strangers ask if I'm pregnant with my first I just say yes. It doesn't seem appropriate to tell the truth.
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November 3rd, 2010, 09:09 PM
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Ugh, that question is the worst. I started getting angry at myself for saying "yes she's my first" all the time, but at the same time I really don't want to get into it with everyone I talk to! Especially since someone asks me that about 10 times every time we go out. Gah.

And... yes on the "they're still alive." I swear every time she wakes up from a nap and I can hear her on the monitor I go into the bedroom and feel my heart leap that she is still alive! And there are days I hug her so tight and let my fingers rub her firm back and I think, WOW, she's real, she's REAL, and still here! I have literally just sat on the couch crying some days.

It's messed up, but it's also really good that we appreciate what we have.
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November 4th, 2010, 12:44 AM
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hugs rebecca i hate how our lives are forever in what if's and that we have to check that our lo's are still breathing

happy 6 months grant
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