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November 14th, 2010, 09:15 PM
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This is a strange one, I think. Let me explain.

At the time of Devin's death we knew nothing about cemeteries and burials and so we decided to let the hospital take care of Devin's burial. He is buried in a large cemetery in the city where the hospital is, in a section just for babies. I am fine with that for now.

However, when I die I want to be buried in a cemetery - I don't care which one - and I want Devin to be moved to be with me. I want his headstone next to mine. I want people to walk through and see that I lost my son long before I died, I want our bones to be together.

I am currently writing up a will and I have no idea how to state that in legal terms. What is it called? Relocation? Would that suffice? Uhhhh. Yeah. I may need to call someone to find out. LOL
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November 14th, 2010, 09:34 PM
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I actually discussed this a little bit with the funeral home before we finalized Cora's cremation. It is relocation, at least that's what he called it (we were talking about burying her and then relocating her body when we moved). It's pretty expensive though, especially if you cross state boundaries (which may not happen for you, but we were pretty sure would happen for us).

Good luck writing out your will though. Since we have no remains to relocate, having spread her ashes, I just want Cora to get a headstone next to mine, so that after I die there's still something that shows the world she was here.
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November 14th, 2010, 09:43 PM
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I actually discussed this a little bit with the funeral home before we finalized Cora's cremation. It is relocation, at least that's what he called it (we were talking about burying her and then relocating her body when we moved). It's pretty expensive though, especially if you cross state boundaries (which may not happen for you, but we were pretty sure would happen for us).

Good luck writing out your will though. Since we have no remains to relocate, having spread her ashes, I just want Cora to get a headstone next to mine, so that after I die there's still something that shows the world she was here.
Thanks! I likely wouldn't be crossing state lines.... unless for some reason someone decided to bury me back in Canada, which is highly unlikely, since I live here now. At least having a headstone next to mine would be a good backup, in case for some reason relocating him isn't possible.
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November 15th, 2010, 01:57 PM
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Just a thought, but if you would find a place for yourself, you could possibly have him moved and the headstone set up before hand. In our case, we purchased the lot in the cemetary for our DS and then also purchased the two right next to him for us. That way, we know we'll be buried with him. Sometimes DH will make a comment about being buried someplace else or moving and I'm quick to remind him that I already know where I'm going to be and that I won't be moving too far away from my baby.....but I know he understands and feels the same way.
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November 27th, 2010, 01:15 AM
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You should definitely look into it beforehand to see how much it would cost.

This is why we had COlm cremated and he is with us. We know we will be moving for the next 10 years or so, probably 2-3 more times. I didn't want to leave him somewhere without us.
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November 27th, 2010, 07:18 AM
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we got three plots next to Logans (in case Ella wants to be buried with us and not her husband or whatever).

Another thought if relocation isn't possible or outlandishly costly or something...I heard another loss mama had her baby cremated, but had a special stuffed animal (like you do) and decided she wanted that to be buried with her or buried next to her with a headstone for the baby. That may not interest you, just thought I'd throw that out there.

oh and your daughter is just beautiful. Haven't been around to tell you that but I followed your blog.
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