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January 16th, 2011, 09:33 PM
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They keep talking about how when they hit 12 weeks they are SAFE

OMG THEY ARE NEVER SAFE!!

Just because the magic 12 week number hits, doesn't mean your baby won't die at some point -

I guess it is the innoncence that irritates me

sorry had to vent.
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January 16th, 2011, 11:20 PM
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that was me before losin jessica! your right jenn the innocence and niavity (sp)
if only they knew! god fobid they don't!!!
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January 17th, 2011, 07:15 AM
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You are sooooo right!
I cringe whenever I hear people say that .... "oh I'm 12 weeks - I'm in the safe zone now". I actually want to shake those people and scream!!!
Pregancy is safe when it is over and your crying baby is in your arms. Sadly we in this group have learned that the hard way
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January 17th, 2011, 07:25 AM
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Hopefully none of them will have to learn the hard way.
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January 17th, 2011, 10:22 AM
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That's something that drives me crazy! i'll never forget seeing a post on facebook (not from anyone on JM) saying "i'm 14 weeks...I'm safe now" UGH I wanted to say something, but never did.
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January 17th, 2011, 12:32 PM
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I have to say I thought the same way.
Now I know that unless I have the baby in my arms and see he/she breathing I will worry
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January 17th, 2011, 02:14 PM
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Yeah, I hate that. I really do. Sometimes it's hard to just bite your tongue.


Though, I admit, it bothers me even more when I see someone in PAL say that.
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January 17th, 2011, 03:31 PM
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There are people waiting till 12 weeks to announce it cause it is safe
I announced early - I wanted to share every moment with my friends
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January 17th, 2011, 07:08 PM
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That drove me crazy in my DDC too! They just couldn't understand why I was so guarded, reserved, and had a hard time being excited. Then when I went into the hospital at the beginning of December all they could say "at least you are being monitored and they can get the baby out and he will be fine" Sometimes I wish I could be so oblivious in pregnancy again, no worries or concerns.
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first congrats on your pregnancy!!

It drives me nuts too.... a friend of a friend just has her baby at 38 wks she was stillborn. a mom on fb was posting how she was so sad and mad cuz everyone was having their baby before her.. I was so ready to let her have it and tell her not to be mad cuz not everyone gets to bring their baby home and the time will come for her to have her baby
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January 17th, 2011, 08:59 PM
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I haven't even joined my DDC this time.
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January 18th, 2011, 03:40 PM
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first congrats on your pregnancy!!

It drives me nuts too.... a friend of a friend just has her baby at 38 wks she was stillborn. a mom on fb was posting how she was so sad and mad cuz everyone was having their baby before her.. I was so ready to let her have it and tell her not to be mad cuz not everyone gets to bring their baby home and the time will come for her to have her baby
Someone should literally slap her!

I am so sorry for your friend's friend. My oldest daughter was born sleeping at 38 weeks, big hugs to her.
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January 18th, 2011, 05:48 PM
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thanks. the girl is still in high school also. I am sure its going to be hard for her to return to school.
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January 19th, 2011, 06:53 AM
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thanks. the girl is still in high school also. I am sure its going to be hard for her to return to school.
Poor thing, I hope she has support or can be directed to seek some.
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January 20th, 2011, 09:56 AM
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I totally understand, and we're in the same DDC! I just skip those posts mostly. I hate that I can't be worry-free and just happy-go-lucky....ignorance sometimes is bliss I think.
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February 7th, 2011, 05:57 PM
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Women in my DDC are all excited because they have "reached the point of viability" . . .I don't mention that people have full term stillborns. I dont' want to hurt them and I truly envy their ignorance!
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February 10th, 2011, 05:06 PM
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I understand completely... Even knowing that there is always a risk, I waited to tell people IRL about my last pregnancy till I was 16 weeks, thinking there was no way anything would go wrong - I had really felt that I would have my little man in my arms - if only I knew! I mostly wait to tell people so my kids won't be hurt if anything was wrong - now w/ my next pregnancy if I am so blessed, I won't ever feel comfortable enough to tell them
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February 10th, 2011, 08:51 PM
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Women in my DDC are all excited because they have "reached the point of viability" . . .I don't mention that people have full term stillborns. I dont' want to hurt them and I truly envy their ignorance!
There's a blog I follow where she just hit viability. It's huge for her because she's never gotten this far before, and I understand that. But she said "It's good to know that *worst case scenario* if she were born right now she could survive."


My thought? No, worst case scenario is her dying before she's born. **sigh** I'm not going to say anything, she deserves her happiness.
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February 11th, 2011, 08:16 AM
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I've already seen it in my DDC, people talking about making it to 12 weeks...12 weeks is nothing! i've had 2 losses after 12 weeks...I wont say anything...I guess it's nice to have that innocence, I wish I did.
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February 11th, 2011, 08:26 AM
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Megan - I didn't know you were pregnant! Congrats and sending tons of baby cement your way.

Brittanie - If you are talking about who I think you are, I totally understand. I usually hate it when people talk about that magic 24 week viability but with her, she just needs to enjoy every milestone to the fullest and I celebrate alongside her.
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