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March 18th, 2011, 10:37 AM
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So anytime I hear a story like this one...British Baby Girl Brought Back To Life After Being Frozen For Three Days
my first reaction is anger. I guess anger that my Eli didn't survive when these other babies are. Is that terrible. Does anyone else get those type of reactions instead of just seeing it as a miracle and being happy for the family.
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March 18th, 2011, 03:28 PM
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Yes I do, I am glad I am not the only one. If I am not careful I will get quite bitter about it.
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March 18th, 2011, 06:43 PM
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Yeah me too. Anger and envy. I get angry that Cora never even got the chance to fight in this way. By the time I realized there was something wrong she was already dead, and had been for far too long. I feel the same way when I hear of families who have a child go through a severe trauma or stay in the nicu/picu and comes out perfectly fine on the other end. I'm happy for their miracle, don't get me wrong, I'm sincerely glad that their baby survived.


But I just wish that Cora could have gotten that chance.
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March 18th, 2011, 08:36 PM
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I don't, because there was no fixing Ethan. Even the miracle stories I read come close to what he needed - a set of kidneys. There's no growing those.

I don't know if it will make you feel any better, but the treatment they described (it's called a cooling protocol) helped save Grant's life (well his brain functioning) in the NICU. When he was born he was having seizures with apnea, and he went on the cooling protocol immediately. They brought him down to about 96 degrees, which is not what this girl went down to obviously, but for a newborn it's quite a drop. He was taken off after 3 days, and despite the seizures and apnea, has absolutely no brain damage
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March 18th, 2011, 10:40 PM
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Yes. I become angry that my son wasn't given that same chance at life, but like many of you by the time i realized...he was already gone. Its NOT fair.
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March 19th, 2011, 06:38 AM
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On the subject of the unfairness, I get SUPER pissed about teenagers or people in general who are in denial they are pregnant, get zero prenatal care, and pop out a perfectly healthy baby!! We all did everything we could for healthy babies and got screwed.

Rebecca - I am beyond over the moon that the cooling method worked for little Grant and that he is so wonderfully perfect!
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March 19th, 2011, 12:06 PM
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Not really. Like Rebecca said, there was no fixing Duncan's heart and lung defects. I simply wish we had known about the gravity of the situation, that way we could have prepared and induced labor before he went into congestive heart failure. He could have been born alive if we knew how bad his heart was.
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March 19th, 2011, 01:30 PM
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I think that way.
Our situation was different.
Our son died due to loss of oxygen during labour.
I wish we had been given a miracle.
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March 19th, 2011, 08:45 PM
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I don't, because there was no fixing Ethan. Even the miracle stories I read come close to what he needed - a set of kidneys. There's no growing those.

I don't know if it will make you feel any better, but the treatment they described (it's called a cooling protocol) helped save Grant's life (well his brain functioning) in the NICU. When he was born he was having seizures with apnea, and he went on the cooling protocol immediately. They brought him down to about 96 degrees, which is not what this girl went down to obviously, but for a newborn it's quite a drop. He was taken off after 3 days, and despite the seizures and apnea, has absolutely no brain damage
I didn't realize that Grant had that done. I knew he went threw a lot after he was born. He truly is your miracle baby and that makes me happy.
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March 20th, 2011, 02:03 AM
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i dont get angry like i used to, im happy for miracles, what gets me angry now thou are people who don't deserve babies bt thats another thread
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March 20th, 2011, 09:25 AM
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I get angry because Bryan Luke COULD have and SHOULD have survived if we had just caught that he was in distress sooner. He would have been early, but Sarah Beth was much earlier. I am so envious in situations like those I could spit.

But, I always go back to being happy that their baby DID survive. I never wish this on anyone else... I just wish I was in their shoes.
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March 20th, 2011, 05:47 PM
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I never wish this on anyone else... I just wish I was in their shoes.
I think this sums it up perfectly. I wish I was in their shoes. I am so glad their baby survived, like you said I would never wish the death of a baby on anyone, myself included.

I knew I could come here and vent about this and not have people think I was a horrible person. Thanks ladies, for being your awesome selves.
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March 20th, 2011, 08:36 PM
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I get angry because Bryan Luke COULD have and SHOULD have survived if we had just caught that he was in distress sooner. He would have been early, but Sarah Beth was much earlier. I am so envious in situations like those I could spit.

But, I always go back to being happy that their baby DID survive. I never wish this on anyone else... I just wish I was in their shoes.
This is my oldest daughter's situation exactly and exactly how I feel too.
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