Annoucment

shannonrafuse · #1 April 16th, 2011, 12:13 PM

Hi my name is Shannon and it has been a week and 2 days since our little girl left us. She was born on april 7th. We named her Cora LaVerne. She was 26 weeks gestation. It is so hard to be without her and not feeling her kick and move inside. Hope that I will get through this loss. This is the second loss for myself and I find it very hard to deal with. I am sure I will get through as I look at our son and he gives me hope. She is dearly missed, hope I can find the strengh some how.

#2 April 16th, 2011, 07:19 PM

I am so sorry to have to welcome you here. I'm Carrie, my son Eli was stillborn at 26 weeks in August of 2009. It's something I wish no one ever had to go through. We are here for you as you grieve, cry, scream, etc.

Brittanie · #3 April 16th, 2011, 08:41 PM

My Cora was also born sleeping. Her 5th birthday is in 2 weeks.

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this more than once! Once was hard enough for me.

ChristyRVT · #4 April 17th, 2011, 09:18 AM

I'm so sorry.

oregongirl · #5 April 17th, 2011, 12:07 PM

I'm so sorry for you loss. I delivered our son last month, at 21 weeks. I hope you can find some peace at this difficult time.

HopefulMommy81 · #6 April 18th, 2011, 04:53 PM

We are here with whatever you need. You and your family are in my T&P. Our little boy, Matthew, was stillborn at 23 weeks July 1, 2010.

claire1979 · #7 April 19th, 2011, 02:25 AM

im sorry to have to welcome you here shannon, and so sorry you lost your precious cora, i lost my jessica in 2005, please stay the support system in this boar is amazing. im co host here im claire x

shannonrafuse · #8 April 19th, 2011, 04:10 AM

Thanks so much. It is so hard not to cry all the time. but I have to stay strong for our 3 year old. He just started asking about cora. I feel so sad as I keep thinking when should we try again. It took us 2 1/2 years and 7 months of fertitlty meds to concieve cora. I just don't want to have to wait another 2 years again. when did you try again for another?

claire1979 · #9 April 19th, 2011, 06:41 AM

i tried after 10 months but it took a few more months to concieve (i loast the baby) then i concieved after 12 months my rainbow baby (not such a baby anymore shes 3) i didnt try for her thou she was a total surprise.

#10 April 19th, 2011, 07:14 AM

First, I want to say that it's ok for your son to see you cry and grieve. It's actually healthy for him to learn that it's ok to cry. My daughter was almost 2 when Eli was stillborn and she would ask me what was wrong and I would just tell her that I was sad and that I missed Eli.
We started trying again pretty much right away. We needed to get the doctor's ok that I no longer had the virus that was the cause of death for Eli and once we got that ok, we started trying. We got pregnant again about 3 months after Eli was born. My due date was actually on Eli's 1st birthday.

shannonrafuse · #11 April 19th, 2011, 09:01 AM

I am nervous as I have a divided uterus. I have lost two on the left side of my uterus and had a little boy on the right side. I was watched very closely with this pregnancy and it still ended. I hope that when we try again that every thing will be okay. Our families are telling us not to even think of another. Just wish that they would keep their comments to them selves. I know that it has only been almost 2 weeks. I feel like I should not be even thinking of another, but that is all I am thinking. Is this normal.

Brittanie · #12 April 19th, 2011, 10:53 AM

I think that's one of the most common things we go through. Many many women want to try again immediately.

I don't think that there's any wrong way to grieve.

I'm sorry about your family's comments. Only you and your SO can decide whether it's right for you to try again.

Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy · #13 April 20th, 2011, 04:24 AM

Hi Shannon - I am glad you found your way over here, the ladies here are INCREDIBLE!

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Cora.

As you know, my name is Jenn - I am also the co-host on this board, I lost my daughter Rebecca in 2003 at 27 weeks gestation - have gone on to have two beautiful boys and currently pregnant with a little girl and scared out of my mind to say the least.

We started to TTC after three months we lost Rebecca, had a miscarriage and that crusheed me just as bad - then went on in the following August to get pregnant with Benjamin - you will TTC when your ready - and only when you and your hubby are ready - tell your family to keep their comments to themselves. I know they are only trying to help but it doesn't help - they just don't know what to say.