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I wouldn't announce a pregnancy until I was 12 weeks along really, but not because I necessarily feel like I'm safe at that point... I just know people will start to notice then. I'd rather no one to have known until I brought home my baby, but that's not possible, you know?
It frustrates me when people think "Oh good, now I'll have a healthy baby" after only 12 weeks. I've had so many people say stuff like that to me and I usually say something like, "I'm praying that happens for you for sure!" I can't kill their innocence but it hurts that mine is gone.
Yeah, it really bugs me too. I mean, if you're not safe 12 days before your due date, when are you safe?
I always announce right away because I'm sickest in the first trimester so there's no keeping it hidden. People can announce whenever they want, but yeah, talking about being safe drives me up the wall.
Yeah, it's irritating. "Safe" is not a word I use!
I'm like Brit, I announce it right away because I throw up constantly in my first tri and feel miserable. Plus I am always so excited after several cycles of IVF that I can't keep it to myself, heh. But that's a personal choice.
I'm selective about who I tell in the first trimester, sometimes even up until that anatomy scan at 18 weeks. This time around I'm already showing and so it's a lot harder to keep it a secret. I never feel safe, and I always use the word hopefully when it comes to anything involving the baby....."hopefully the baby will come in January" etc. I get so frustrated with others too, and it hurts that others can be so carefree with announcing it when I feel I have to be so guarded.
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I didn't tell anyone except for immediate family because with my medical history of kidney disease, I wasn't sure how far along I would make it. It turned out it was harder that no one knew because then when I had Sara at 22 weeks, I had to explain it over and over.
Count me in the group that wouldn't tell a soul until I brought the baby home if I could get away with it. I don't usually tell until I absolutely have to, usually around 16 - 18 weeks. Believe it or not, there are lots of people that still don't know that I am pregnant. We've been telling people as we see them (because it is obvious), so some of our friends won't find out until we see them at a housewarming party next weekend.
As for the 'safe' comment, it does bother me because there aren't any guarantees, but what really bothers me is my jealousy. The truth is that they probably are safe, but I never will be. It makes me a bit sad sometimes. I don't begrudge them their 'safety' or their innocence, but I do envy them a bit. It's not nice, but it is the truth.
I hate that saying as well, but more that I, too, am jealous that they are so naive they feel that way, and more than likely will have a safe, uncomplicated, healthy pregnancy where they will never need to know differently. No matter what happens with Annalise, or any other subsequent pregnancy, I will never feel "safe" until I hold my baby and she is screaming her little head off!
Annalise is hoping to be a big sister on June 28, 2014. Forever missing her big brother, Matthew, stillborn on July 1, 2010.